I've been SO mistaken about the whole "hypergamy" thing

For YEARS, it's bothered me to no end that women can be so basic in their desires, with their shallow "铁路 dashboard" type of lists of what they want in a suitor: tall, rich, handsome, charming, etc. <br><br>And I've been certain that the majority of women are just hypergamous gold-diggers who are shallow beyond measure. <br><br>But, I recently took some time to reflect on my own desires. I have a pretty solid career in healthcare, a solid savings account, make good money and I'm not broke. But, I'm not particularly rich or anything. I'm 6'2 215lbs of muscle, but I'm not "chiseled" or anything like that. I'm pretty decent looking, but nothing that'd win any awards. I'm in good health, I have a nice house, a decent car, and I'm not starved for attention or anything. But, with all that being said... I still yearn for someone. Maybe even more than women do. <br><br>I STRUGGLE to find a suitor. Any single woman on here can tell you that I'm not an unattractive guy. I have decent looks. I'm charming. I can cook. I can read. I can play video games. I'm not perfect, but I'm not some chump off the street. And, yet, I still struggle to find someone who wants to commit to me. I've been dumped, I've been cheated on, I've been ghosted. I've been everyone else's "option 3". I've even had single moms not want to date me because I don't make enough money to take care of them and their kids. <br><br>I'm a high-value male in everyone else's books, but I sit here every day as someone who WANTS a partner, but can't even get one. And, I now have to wonder... maybe women aren't the hypergamous ones. Maybe everyone just wants someone and it's hard to find a match. Maybe it's not that they're basic or shallow, maybe they just know what they want. Maybe such a notion isn't wrong or offensive. Maybe it's just normal human behavior to have desires and to want something. <br><br>In short, I now understand. I've been judging from my ownmirror and I have now realized my mistake. I have been SO mistaken. And now, I see that everyone just wants someone and it's not so easy to find for anyone.