AITA for asking my dying wife’s snack friend to pay rent?

So, this is a bit uncommon, and I think I’m TA for it. My dying wife snack (81) of 5 years asked me to let her friend Debbie move in with us until her son picks her up. <br><br>The exchange (like snack) promised me Debbie would be easy guest, hasn’t left her house since 2020, and only wanted to move in to escape the bad weather (she’s on the east coast.) <br><br>She’s been living with us for 3 months now and even snack says she’s a bit much. <br><br>Debbie is a 70+ year old woman who drinks a lot and expects to be waited on. <br><br>She’s left trash all around the yard, even leaving it on the front lawn. She’s clogged up two bathrooms already, hasn’t washed a single dish since she’s been here, and keeps trying to break into snack’s liquor cabinet. She’s even asked me if I’d buy her groceries and liquor for the month since her social security hadn’t hit her bank yet. <br><br>I think part of my issue is she shows little to no respect for snack who’s dying. It’s also a bit offensive that she was given a free place to stay and acts like she’s owed something. <br><br>I’ve asked her to pay $200 a month to help with electricity, gas, water, laundry, and groceries and she’s gone off on me about how horrible of a person I am. She’s even went so far as to say it’s ridiculous I’m charging her rent when snack let her move in. <br><br>She’s left voicemails for snack’s son, her son, and even a few for me. My snack has asked the son to get her out as soon as his schedule allows, but until then, I asked her to pay board and she said that I am the most horrible man she’s ever met and that she would get her son on me. <br><br>I guess I’m AITA for asking for $200 after she’s been living here for free for 90 days? I just don’t think it’s fair as she doesn’t contribute or help at all.