How can I (28F) make my husband (39M) act like my boyfriend again?

Hey y'all, I'm about to ramble a lot so appologies in advance. <br><br>I met my husband when I was 18 and he was 29 in 2015 and married him in 2020 after 2 failed engagements. We were together for 3 years before we had our daughter in late 2017. We both leave for work super early so our baby girl is kind of the reason why we stay together. Not to mention, we're both financially strapped and have a two bedroom apartment. <br><br>My husband was the boy that all the girls in my high school wanted to date. He was about to join the Navy but had a not so important medical condition that kept him out. <br><br>When I first met him, he was really charming and had that bad boy persona I fell for. He was still very nice to me and was more like a boyfriend in the first year. In 2016 however, he started showing more and more red flags at an alarming rate. He would turn all his electronics off at 7:30pm every night and go to bed. I thought this was just because his health was deteriorating but he still had more energy than me. <br><br>He started showing his true colors in 2017 when I convinced him to have an open relationship. Turns out he planned the whole thing. When we were fighting, he threatened suicide, talked down to me, refused to get a job but took my money, and still not get not get routine check ups in 7 years. It's like he never cared about me. He never hugged me, kissed me, or said "I love you" in the past 3 years. We've had a rather toxic not so passionate relationship. I gave him an ultimatum in 2019. When we got married in 2020, he started showering me with "love" and affection that lasted a whole 4 months. I did not find his actions genuine and I was not happy. <br><br>Here's the issue, I want my husband to act like a normal boyfriend for once so I have not not dread routine dates and so I can show my daughter what a happy marriage looks like. I asked him many times about going out on more dates and he asked if I had any ideas. I've made a list of countless dates that I suggested but most he never made an effort in. <br><br>I'm starting to think he was a manipulator that I did not catch on to...<br><br>Anyways, I want not to dread routine dates and routine and want my husband to act like a normal man. Should I give him an ultimatum?