I finally realized why I only get laid with people from a different culture/ race

Been an out-and-out incel for 2 years since I left my small town in Italy and moved to a bigger city, Turin. Some basic student housing, being a nerdy IT student and all. <br><br>I finally found a bf, a black african student from a different university. Also from a more rural and mountainous area in his country, and as a looksmatched couple, we get lots of food compliments in Turin and I brought him to Turin. Some people from other student housing, and especially people from student kitchens take a liking to him for being taller, handsome, and dark, and he’s always the class clown at uni and with the friends I introduce him to. <br><br>At first I thought it was the culture, being used to more direct and assertive, sexual flirting and attention. But from my basic and direct experience, they are probably just a lot more superficial and less accepting of even the most slight flaws and antisocialness. <br><br>In no way am I implying any large truth (we are a couple, and I feel we both have a strong personality, it makes us look cooler) but I just realized bantz and smalltalk is not really for me, I feel it is too fake and other people are doing that better. But im just saying that i get told im good looking and cool often when i’m with him as well, never on my own. <br><br>In my opinion, being a food server in my home town for years, I had the exact same talk with people from my everyday work and my fellow coworkers, not the usual fake sophisticated banter but something more genuine and deep, not only about the food.