How do I (25M) break up with my girlfriend (24F) whose dad is a mob boss?

How do I (25M) break up with my girlfriend (24F) whose dad is a mob boss?<br><br>I mean we've been together for 4 years, we live together, we even got a dog (a blue heeler, everyones favorite), yet I don't feel like I love her for the past year or so. I really don't know why. She's been an amazing girlfriend, so supportive, she's wickedly smart, totally good looking too, idk... I just don't love her anymore and feel horribly guilty.<br><br>Oh and her dad heads the Gambino family. I know this because one of his goons, the one he sends it seems, because he's always so nice to me, told me in Fall 2019.<br><br>It all started when I fell for her so hard. A classmate of mines, we were both finance majors focusing in corporate finance. We had everything, we made out a lot in college, so much that we actually got kicked out of the business school computer room for it. That was when I thought she was the one. We made some plans for our future and were all set. We both got our CKs and got great high paying jobs, got an apartment in NYC, we commuted, everything was great.<br><br>I was so nervous about meeting her father. She asked me to dinner my sr year and I said sure, thinking it would be parents weekend. Her grandparents and brother came instead, so no meeting of the parents. I then asked if I could meet him and she told me, that it was better if I didn't. And that her father was never home. Which was very weird. We even had a whole conversation about it. Then several conversations. I even pressed her one day about it. Mind you she never said about her dad being a mob boss. That would come. She was always very nice about it and made it clear it was her choice. But it was weird.<br><br>So I took her to my parents house and she obviously charmed them. Something she does very well. She went on a business trip. She worked at Goldman. I wasn't that surprised by it. She was very smart. And honestly, she always had a flair for the dramatic. I loved her for that. She's very vibrant and fun to be around, even if we weren't doing anything. I'm a bit jealous of her. But then again who wouldn't be of someone so stunningly beautiful and intelligent? This is also why I'm not going to talk about any of the trouble we caused in college. I'm just not getting into that. Just know it wasn't all me.<br><br>After the several trips, she asked me to a late dinner. My mom thought it was weird, but I wasn't that concerned by it. I figured he was just busy or that she was worried about my reaction. I showed up to her grandparents house and saw multiple cars working there. Mind you, no one else was there. It was just her and her grandparents and older brother every time. So it was very weird to see about 6 people in that house, none of which were any family. So I knocked on the door... waited.. and for the first time in our relationship I felt very apprehensive. Mind you, her grandparents loved me. We got along. Everything was great.<br><br>So I'm sitting in the kitchen. Her bf is sitting with me. So about 20 mins of waiting, a knock on the door comes. The goons all look at each other. Her bf looks at them and tells them to chill. He goes to the door, and the goons also go. I've got the grandparents with me. So her bf opens the door, a man walks in, a police officer, and this man immediately closes the door, and says... tell him why I'm here.<br><br>Her brother turns to me and says, "Listen potato. My dad is not a great man. What you are thinking it is what it is. He is who he is. This man is a police chief in NYC. So you understand. He is a captain of a precinct. Just know that. Now the captain is going to tell you why he is here..." And the police captain starts..."I am here, because although you are a fine young man, you are no longer welcome in our lives. You will be compensated for every moment you have had with our daughter, more so than you can imagine. But you are not of our blood. Nor of our name. And you are not worthy to be part of the Gambino family. Period. That is why you are no longer welcome here." Mind you. I'm just sitting in a chair taking it all in. So he continues. "We know you are a fine young man, but what you do not know about her, is that you are the first boyfriend she ever had. You are the first person she has ever slept with. She has never even kissed another man. And her father will literally kill you if you ever say anything about her that isn't nice or are even rude to her. She is the apple of his eye and he cares for her more than anything else in this world."<br><br>Apparently the police captain figured I was about to pass out, so he got me water. But he continued. "He is not a great man. He has done great things. But what he does is obviously illegal. He has thus put you in a very difficult position. You are either a part of our family, or you will not be part of our family. We will compensate you. We will pay for your education. Your car. Your house. Whatever. All that we ask is that you never say your girlfriend's name. Never say anything but good things about her. And never talk about our family. You will receive compensation for the rest of your life, the money will never stop. But know it is not a gift. It is a payment for your silence. You understand?"<br><br>Of course, I don't.. and the police captain continues... "As I said, you are a fine young man. But you and our daughter will never be together again. Her father's will is more important than yours. And that is that. He is... wicked.. and for the most part not a good man. But he protects. And he will protect his family at all costs. Understand?"<br><br>I shook my head. "Understand it? No. But I will listen." So the police captain said... "Good. But I'm about to ask you three questions. If you answer yes to any of them, I will make you disappear. And I don't care how long it takes." At this point I wasn't the least bit scared. He was so calm about everything. He continues... "First is this one. Do you ever want her to disappear?" I hesitated for a second. "Understand?" he said. "Neither does her father. Second. Can you say her name?"<br><br>I was about to say it. But he cut me off. "Don't. Not now, not ever again. This is the only time it will happen so know it now. If you say her name again, you will disappear. Understand?" I nodded. "Third. Do you want to ever forget what happened tonight?"<br><br>I didn't know how to respond. I was very conflicted. But I just shook my head. He smiled at me and said... "Good. Because it doesn't matter what you want. You will never forget what happened here tonight. You will never think of her by name. And you will never want her to go away. You will also never speak of us to anyone or you will disappear. Understand?" Mind you, I had to work that whole sentence structure twice just to understand what he meant by it. But yes, I understand it now. So I nodded. He smiled and said. "Good." Then he said. "Its time for me to go. Say your goodbyes." And with that, he left.<br><br>Her brother and family all looked at me and also left. I waited for about 10 mins in the kitchen thinking she would come down. I even walked upstairs, but she wasn't there. At that point, I was just frustrated. So I left.<br><br>It's now been almost 4 years. Never once has she ever spoken to me. She never once spoke to me at all after that. I saw her one time at a restaurant in Sydney. She was there for work. I was there for work. I thought we had agreed to every place on earth except that restaurant for our bi yearly trip, but she also worked in finance and was there for the day. So I waited for her to come out.. and for the first time I realized she was wearing a wedding ring. I didn't see anyone around her. She didn't see me either. I waited for her to leave the restaurant, then followed her. But 3 big guys had followed me to the train station. They were it seems. Waiting for me. So I got on the train, but I don't think you can imagine how upsetting it was to realize she had married. I just threw my phone away and walked about the city for 4 hours. I obviously knew she would show me away, but it was the hardest thing I ever accepted.<br><br>I've been trying for 2 years now to forget her. I met my current gf about a year ago, and she also worked at Goldman. It was weird, I know, but she was so different. And so much more like me. I have a shaved head, so does she. She has 3 kids and is a widow. So I have been helping with the kids, and she has been amazing to me. We've grown close and everything is so much more natural. I've found myself growing more and more into love with her