I feel like I've been robbed of my femininity.

I'm cis female btw, I don't want to be the "whoa no I'm not trans" type, but these types of concerns often get brushed aside in open gendered spaces.<br><br>EDIT:- I just wanna say the people that said I should just let go of it are probably the ones that are doing it. You guys don't see the pattern, how "femininity" that isn't a performance is a weapon being used against us.<br><br>So, I feel like I don't have a choice, it really is such a large problem now. I'll try to get over it, but I'd still appreciate you guys' advice :) <br><br>By femininity, I'm also only talking about what I define as femininity, I wil specifically state what I define as it. And by performance, I'm talking here of males pretending to be women online. <br><br>So the femininity I know is exclusive to females and is something very unique. It's not delicate, nor is it bold, it's not quiet or loud, it's subtle, yet identifiable, it's quiet but not shy, it's bold but not loud...It's delicate yet sturdy. It's really hard to put into words, but it's very distinguishable, and there's no mistake it is ours, completely ours. <br><br>This is something that is really really hard to explain, it's just a type of emotional labour and intelligence. It's also a level of vulnerability. And once you've been around it, or experienced it, you can no longer unsee or unfeel it. You know exactly what it is, it's something that men can't replicate because they're socialised differently and don't have the social burden we do. <br><br>But now, when I go on social media, I'm filled with a sense of dread. Where I'm seeing a pattern of men who are using this vulnerability and intelligence to manipulate people. When I first noticed this pattern it really hurt, because these males were using our labour and social burden to get ahead socially, so they can appear very empathetic and genuine. <br><br>Anyways, no one around me is recognising this, they'll praise these men for being "empathetic" and I feel like I've been robbed of something I've always been proud of, my intelligence and vulnerability, which have been essential survival tools for me. <br><br>I'm still trying to get over it, but I wanted to know what you guys would do.