My wife left me, and I couldn’t feel better

I’m 34(m) my wife “Amy” (34) says she’s leaving me. We were married 8 years and together over 12. We had a single child together, a girl (6) who is the most important thing in my life. <br><br>Our marriage hasn’t been happy for a while now. My wife was always a bit of a jerk, which I was willing to overlook in the beginning because I loved her so much. This caused a lot of problems and we had a lot of fights about how rude she was to everyone. She worked as a personal trainer at a local gym, and as she got closer to her 30s the problems got worse. She started to regularly accuse all of her female clients of flirting with her, and me with the secretaries at my office. It got so that I couldn’t even talk to a woman without her getting angry about how I had wronged her. <br><br>I started to wonder if I had done something to make her think I was flirting with other women, because she refused to be alone with anyone. I took her to a counselor, and he think she had an “insecure attachment style”. He told me that it generally happens to children who are neglected or who don’t have a single consistent caregiver as a child. We talked about it, and she admitted that it was true. I promised to be patient and help her work through it, and she did for a while. <br><br>Over the last year I noticed she was spending a lot of time at the gym, and she was there even when she wasn’t working. I didn’t mention it, because she needed time with people who cared about her. It made me happy to see her happy. <br><br>About 8 weeks ago she decided to take a fitness class, and she dragged me along with her. I was curious to see what it was like, because I had never been to a class. Also it would be nice spend time together doing something she enjoyed. When we showed up there were about 6-8 people who were already mostly set up. We set up on the side, and when class started we did our best to follow along. There was a guy, probably in his mid 40s, who kept coming over to help us, because we didn’t know what we were doing. He was polite and left us alone when we said we had it. Well my wife threw a fit when we got home. She accused the guy of hitting on me (I’m gay), and accused me of flirting with him. <br><br>I lost it over that, and screamed at her to get over herself. She left the house crying and didn’t come back that night. The next morning she said she was sick of my cheating and wanted a divorce. I told her no, we were going to counseling or I was leaving her. We had a huge fight, and at the end of it I thought we were going to work together. <br><br>I was wrong. She didn’t come home the next night and when I called her she said she was with a friend and wouldn’t be back the next night either. I think she was with the trainer from class. When she came back the next night she didn’t acknowledge my existence. Our daughter asked why we weren’t talking and my wife pulled her into her room (she had moved her stuff into the guest room when she got back). <br><br>I heard my daughter crying after a while, and went into the room. “Mommy, is it true? Do you not love Daddy anymore?” My wife looked at me smugly when my daughter repeated back what she had been told. I was devastated, but not surprised. My wife had never liked our daughter, who was the light of my life. <br><br>I decided that it was best to find a new place before telling her that I was going to divorce her. It took me a while to find somewhere nice that I could afford, because she made a lot more money than I did and I would be paying child support. I finally found a place and told her that I wasn’t going to stay in a marriage where she could tell our daughter horrible lies about why we weren’t together anymore. <br><br>I got my daughters things packed up and went to the new house. My wife has been ignoring me since then, which is fine. Our daughter is much happier without her mom’s influence. She’s not scared to express herself anymore, and she is doing well adjustments to the new place. <br><br>I think Amy left last night. When I called her this morning she didn’t answer, and she hasn’t been back to the house yet. It’s probably better this way, because I was dreading dropping the divorce papers off anyway. <br><br>I’m not sad that she’s gone. To be honest it’s the first time I’ve felt truly happy in years.