CMV: There is a growing animosity and accusatory atmosphere between parents of differently abled children and parents of children with medical conditions that seem to manifest mostly in reddit subreddits

I am a moderator of the disability subreddit and a parent of a disabled child myself; both my children are autistic and have severe intellectual disabilities, one with some medical disabilities as well.<br><br>I have been reading on reddit for a while various subreddits regarding different topics related to disability and parenting. On one end, there are the subreddits dedicated to disabilities, such as autism, Down syndrome, SMA, etc etc. On the other side there are subreddits like r/AskTeenGirls or r/AskTeenBoys, r/confession and other subreddits, where people can talk more freely without fear of being judged.<br><br>I have noticed that in the last few years, there is a growing push towards parents of children with medical conditions or illnesses and accusing the parents of disabled children of:<br>- Making their lives harder by asking for acceptance when they can't accept a child that may die<br>- Making them feel guilty because they cannot take care of their child by themselves, if that child is bound to medical procedures, and comparing it to disability where the biggest issue is acceptance<br>- Accusing disabled people of not truly being disabled just because they don't have a "real" medical condition<br><br>The worst thing is some people seem to get real pleasure pointing fingers, creating enemy imagery and strawmanning others and their beliefs.<br><br>I really think the main issue is with the sjw and modern disability movement's push for separating disability from chronic illness. We can all agree there is a difference between medical and systemic barriers but we all face social barriers. But people like Stella Maeve or Svava Brooks, amongst many others, seem to make a sport out of creating tribes and pointing fingers.<br><br>DISCLAIMER: I do not speak for every person with a disability or every parent of a child with a disability or chronic illness, this is just MY point of view.<br><br>EDIT: I just had to remove this reply because I think this is a perfect example for what I am saying, not once in my post, I said or implied disability is a choice or that someone can choose to see their child as disabled or not:<br><br>"It's kind of like saying that a person had a choice to be an amputee or not because they could choose to have their limb amputated or not."<br><br>A disability is not a choice, but we can choose to see disability as part of us, as part of our identity, as part of our lives, as part of who and how we are.