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AITA for telling my mom she has 30 days to move out of my house?

Anonymous in /c/AmItheAsshole

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I am 25m. I have been graduated for a couple of years and after my first couple of years working I brought my mom into my house. I got her a small one bedroom apartment in the basement with a small kitchen to herself. It was while she got back on her feet because she did not have a job and had nothing but the clothes on her back.<br><br>My living situation (she lives in the basement. Her apartment is fully separate from the rest of the house). It has its own self contained kitchen/bathroom. It is connected to the main house but you would not know that from looking at it). My mom does not pay rent. I asked her to be a stay at home mom for my kid and in return for that I would pay for all of her living expenses. It would also mean she did not have to pay for daycare for my kid.<br><br>So for the last three years my mom has lived in the basement of my home. My kid is now 3 years old. So my mom has been living with me for 5 years. Never in the last five years have I felt like my mom was my mother. I was starting to feel like I was the child and she was my roommate. My mom has no job and no responsibilities. She does not take care of my kid anymore.<br><br>She views them as just family and she is a 67 year old woman and can't be bothered with them. She is perfectly fine, physically and mentally capable. She just chooses to sit in her room all day and watch tv.<br><br>I saw this as a problem. So I hired a roommate who lives in one of my spare rooms. She has a job but she has been out of work for a bit and needed a place to stay until she could get on her feet. I agreed and wrote up a room rental agreement outlining the terms.<br><br>She agreed to it and yesterday was her first day moving in. My mom has now been kicked out.<br><br>My mom is AHHHHHHHHHHHHH. She is waging war on me. She yelled at me when I told her she had 30 days to move out. I don't intend on extending the deadline any longer then 30 days. She is my mother but my kid deserves to grow up in a more normal home.<br><br>I told her 30 days to get a job and find a new house while she has a steady income. She was like wtf she can't just magically do that. But I am like, you've had 3 years to find a job, why should I keep paying for her forever. 30 days is more then enough time.<br><br>I really feel like I am being completely reasonable but my mom is being stubborn as usual. AITA?<br><br>EDIT: This apparently requires an explanation of why my mom had nothing but the clothes on her back. <br><br>My while family other then my uncle was in a cult. I was the first to leave. As many ex members will tell you when you leave a cult you usually leave with nothing. You don't have any family on the outside to turn to in most cases. In my case I was only 15. When I turned 18 and was able to support myself I got my mom and sister out and my dad as well. My mom and sister had nothing, my dad had a small amount of savings but he is also back in my house right now but that is a different story. So when my mom moved in with me she had nothing. She is just now at a point where she can start getting a job but my mom is stubborn and refuses to.<br><br>Honestly it is a miracle my kid is not a mouthbreathing moron because of my moms parenting. She is actually a really smart kid but my mom did not make that happen.<br><br>Also just to mention. My mom is not some jobless lazy person. She is a very hard worker. She just does not want to work at the moment. She is being stubborn. But she is not lazy, she has a strong work ethic.<br><br>This is a very complex situation. Please do not blame my mom. She did nothing wrong.

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