Had an interesting conversation with a woman about dual income marriages.

I had a conversation with a woman in her mid 40’s with one son. She’s not married but in a long term relationship with her bf. She mentioned to me how she’s never been the type of woman to rely on a man. I asked her for example what she meant by that. She told me how back in the day if a man asked her what her “plan” was in regards to getting married and having kids, she’d tell them she was working on becoming a head pharmacist at a local clinic she worked at. The guy would lose interest immediately. She then asked me the same question. I told her realistically I’m just trying to make it to 40 so I can get some peace of mind with retirement. She smiled and said, “well that’s not what a lot of women want to hear from a man when asking about plans”. I agreed with her that probably most women are looking for a family man at some point. <br><br>I asked her if she knew how it was that women could be independent on one hand but expect a provider on the other hand. She told me, “women don’t want to be provided for in the way a woman is buying a man’s dinner, spends the night, and the next day he gives her $100. Women want to be provided for in the way that they work a good-paying job, have a husband with an even better paying job, a nice house, nice cars, savings, and then the woman can be the supplement income. She doesn’t want to be the main bread winner because then it’s like she’s the man in the relationship. Women have careers to build for themselves to be respected, not to be the pleaser of a man’s needs. It’s not needing a provider, it’s wanting someone to share pleasantries with each other.” <br><br>So women don’t want to be reliant on a man but still want the means to have nice things. Women can be pretty much self-sufficient but men are still expected to be providers. That’s the double standard. <br><br>I’m so glad I’m a dog.