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I (30) found out my fiancé’s (25) ex love of her life is coming back to our country after 5 years. I’m worried.

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Hello! We are Italians who live in Milan. I proposed to my girlfriend 9 months ago and we are supposed to get married next year. She’s from a wealthy family and we are both doing really well for ourselves career wise. I met my fiancé when she was 22 and working for a small company. It was love at first sight. We have been together for 8 years and during this period we have had ups and downs but we always came out on the other side even more in love.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>But now, I am freaking out because her ex from 8 years ago is coming back to Italy. They met back in high school and their relationship ended when they were 22. He is Portuguese and went back to his country (I’m not sure why) when they were 22 and she met me a year later. She told me about this guy from the very beginning and we even talked about him a couple of times but she never wanted to see him or talk to him. She said they were too young and immature when they dated and the breakup was really hard on her so she wanted to move on. One day, she asked me to delete all of her social media accounts because she wanted to disconnect from people she didn’t talk to anymore and I was happy to do it for her.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>He on the other side, didn’t disconnect. He still followed me on Instagram and he posted a lot so I saw him around. I followed him too so I could see what he posts. He got married, had a kid and later divorced. Now, he’s posting about coming back to Italy to work. We live in Milan but he’s from a city close to Milan. I told my fiancé about it and she didn’t really react. She said she was glad we deleted her social media accounts years ago because now he can’t contact her (I don’t think he would anyway).<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>But we don’t live under a rock and it’s very possible they’ll meet again. I’m just not sure what to do. I have no right to ask her anything but I feel like she would leave me for him in a heartbeat. From what she told me, he was her first love and they were very immature when they broke up. I just can’t stop thinking about meeting him again. He was her first love and they broke up over foolish reasons and now she’s about to marry me. I just feel like I can’t compete with what they had and I don’t know what to do. Should I just wait and see what she does? Should I bring it up again? Can someone give me advice? I’m really worried and can’t focus on work.

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