AITA for asking mom to pay for something she'll never use, just to pay her back for all the things I will never use but she insists on paying for?

My mom is a very sweet woman. She's kind, generous, and a hard worker. She's the kind of person who will never ask for anything back and is content with simply helping people in need.<br><br>However, there is one thing she does that I can't really understand, and that's her insistence on paying for things she knows I will never use.<br><br>For example, she's always buying me vitamins and supplements. She's always buying me healthy snacks and superfoods. She's always buying me expensive creams and serums for my skin. She's always buying me expensive hair shampoos and conditioners. And so on. She even bought me a teeth whitening kit once because she knows I drink coffee and wine. All of these things are things that she knows I will never use because of my lifestyle, but she still insists on buying them for me.<br><br>I know she does this because she wants to help me be healthy, and I respect that. However, it's gotten to the point where I feel like I'm starting to resent it. I feel like she's trying to control my choices and my body. Like, I know she's just coming from a good place, but I'm an adult, and I can make my own choices.<br><br>So I had an idea. I asked her if she would be willing to pay for something that she would personally use, but I would never use. Something that would be a fair trade for all the things she's been buying me that I'll never use.<br><br>She thought about it for a moment, then asked what I had in mind. I told her that I would like her to take dance classes. She's always wanted to learn how to dance, but she was too shy as a kid to join a class. I told her that if she was willing to do that, I would be more than happy to pay for things like hair growth serum, or anti aging moisturizer, or protein powder, or whatever else she thinks I need to stay healthy.<br><br>She thought about it for a moment, then rejected the idea. She told me that dance classes would be "so embarrassing" for her, and that she would never be willing to do that. I asked her what about baking classes, or painting classes, or yoga, or anything else that she would actually enjoy and use? She still said no.<br><br>Then I threw out a crazy one. I told her that if she wouldn't pay for experiences, then I would pay for her to get something physical that she will never use or wear. I told her that I would pay for her to get a full face microblading. I know she hates makeup and never wears it. She was so horrified by the idea that she started screaming at me.<br><br>She called me a jerk and a monster, and told me that I was rewarding hate with hate. She told me that I was being ungrateful and petulant, and that I had "no concept of the meaning of gift giving".<br><br>I told her that I wasn't rewarded with hate. I was rewarded with things that I will never use. I was rewarded with things that she knows I don't need. I was rewarded with things that she chose for me, without even asking me. I don't want a gift that someone chooses for me. I want a gift that I choose for myself. And that's why I came up with the idea in the first place.<br><br>She told me that her gifts weren't something that she chose for me. She told me that they were things that any parent would choose for their child. She said that I was being weird and immature for thinking of this as some kind of trade or game.<br><br>A couple of my friends thought I was an asshole for this. They told me that my mom is just trying to help, and that I should be grateful instead of trying to one up her with something as cruel as permanent facial tattooing. They said that my mom isn't trying to control me, but is just showing that she cares. They said that what I did was mean, and that I was hurting my mom's feelings without reason.<br><br>AITA?