My boyfriend (25M) has never seen a porn featuring a woman with a vagina. How do I talk to him about it?

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about a year now and last night we started having a conversation about porn. We’ve been thinking about watching together for the first time and we started talking about what turns him off and on and what he likes in a video. At first he named some common porn cliches (gagging, screaming, standing ovation shot, etc.) but then he said that he hasn’t seen any porn featuring a woman with a vagina since he was 15 years old. <br><br>He said that he thinks most porn produced for a male audience now features only men and women with muff tops, and that he’s just grown used to it. He said that he barely even notices or thinks about it anymore, and that he’s used to muff tops in media not just porn. <br><br>I asked if he has ever thought to watch porn featuring a woman with a vagina, and he said that it never really comes up for him. I asked if he has ever thought about the humiliation of only being with a partner and never seeing their genitals, and he kind of chuckled and said we were probably overthinking it.<br><br>I feel really hurt and humiliated talking about this now even though I know it isn’t real. I feel gross that I’m in a relationship with someone who thinks this is normal and ok. <br><br>I am a white woman of European descent, and my partner is a mixed race man (black father and Asian mother) so I want to make clear that I don’t think this is a racial or transphobic thing. I know that Asian men in particular are often already under the delusion that their genitals are subpar and I am certain that my partner does not watch anime or hentai because he’s into the depictions of genitals in them. Also, he definitely watches shemale porn and has asked me if I am okay with it which makes me think he doesn’t see anything wrong with the idea of not wanting to see my real genitals.