My wife (33f) is saying I (33m) am emotionally and physically abusive. I want to end the relationship but not sure how long she is going to continue this.

So I’m trying my hardest not to be the villain. I don’t want my wife to think I want her to stay. I want her to leave. I have always wanted her to leave. But she will continue to say things are not right. I am doing the same chores as always and I have not changed the chores.<br><br>I haven’t raised my voice in my life time and I get on my knees to calm things down.<br><br>She has taken every toy and game out of the house and my kids are upset. She has yelled at the kids for being sad.<br><br>She has yelled at me for eating my dinner. She has yelled at me for going to bed at 10:30. She has yelled at me for taking a shower.<br><br>I have taken the kids to counseling. <br><br>She says that I’m controlling. She says that I don’t let her do things.<br><br>I have asked her to go to counseling and she has refused. I have offered to get her a therapist and she has said no. <br><br>I just want her to leave me and my kids alone.