My husband (33m) has stopped being attracted to me (31f30) after seeing me naked. How do I stop this from escalating?

My husband (33m) and I (31f) have been married for 5 years and have had our ups and downs, but I have never been in a happier relationship until recently.<br><br>Back in February, my husband was tested for throat cancer and we are still waiting on the results of the biopsy. He had a lump in his neck that was so big it was hard to sleep, and I was so scared because I have lost a close family member to cancer.<br><br>Before the surgery, I wasn't allowed to see him after he had anesthesia, and when they first took him, I was upset.<br><br>When he was placed in the hospital room, I wasn't allowed in to see him, but he told me he looked like "the Creature from the Black Lagoon" and that I should stay away until he had the surgery. I was scared and it was a terrible idea to take his word for it.<br><br>The next day, when he came home from the hospital and the surgery, I wasn't there. Our friends and family had encouraged us to have separate bedrooms, so I had slept in the guest bedroom, and I didn't even come out when he came home.<br><br>That night, he came into the guest bedroom and talked to me. I was in bed, and he sat on the floor. I kept my eyes closed and I had a scarf covering my head. He kept talking and I was about to tell him to leave when I heard his tone change.<br><br>He told me that he didn't like how I sounded, and that I scared him. I kept my eyes closed and told him I was sick. The next morning, I left town and visited my family for a month and a half while he recovered.<br><br>The first night I was gone, he called me and told me he didn't recognize me. He said he didn't like how my voice sounded, and he said he didn't like how my breaths sounded. I told him I was sick and would be back in a month.<br><br>The night I came back, my husband told me to give him an hour. So I went to my parent's house for an hour, and when I came back, he barely even acknowledged me being back. I went to the bedroom and changed into a nightgown and then he came into the room.<br><br>For a moment, we just stood there in the dark. I couldn't see him because he was facing away from me, and I didn't want him to see me. He was going to turn around and see me naked for the first time in a long time, and I wanted to build up my confidence. <br><br>I had gained a little bit of weight since our last "makeout" session, and I wasn't feeling confident. He told me he didn't recognize me when he first saw me naked, so I was worried.<br><br>I asked if I could get him a glass of milk. He agreed and I put on a pair of pants and went into the kitchen. When I came back, I felt more confident. I walked into the room and circled around him. Before I walked around him, I didn't recognize the man in front of me.<br><br>He was taller than I remembered, his shoulders were so wide and his hands were so big. When he turned around, I could see the whites of his eyes, and I couldn't see his irises in the dark. <br><br>I didn't recognize the way his eyebrows were shaped and I didn't know how his mouth was shaped until he opened his mouth and said, "What?"<br><br>I told him I gave him a glass of milk, and he told me he already had it. He then reached up and he touched my chin and he lifted my head up so I had to look at him. He was close to me, and his breath was in my face.<br><br>I had forgotten what his breath felt like. It smelled like mint, but I didn't remember him chewing gum or using mouthwash. I didn't recognize the way his teeth were spaced or the way his lips felt when he touched them to my chin.<br><br>Before, when he kissed me, his lips felt plump and full. When he touched my chin, I didn't feel those same plump lips. His lips felt thin and hard.<br><br>After he lifted my chin, I was about to ask why he did that when he leaned down and he kissed my forehead. When his lips touched my forehead, I felt something wet and hard. I knew it was his mouth, but I didn't expect it to feel so different.<br><br>He then walked past me and he went to the bedroom door and he closed it. He then walked over to the bed and he sat on it. He then sat on the side of the bed and he told me to come sit next to him.<br><br>He was still wearing pants and a shirt, but I was naked except for a nightgown. I told him I wasn't wearing anything and I didn't want to go into bed like that. I went into the closet and I came out wearing a pair of boxers. I opened the boxers so he could see my butt, and I sat down next to him.<br><br>I put my hand on his arm, but he didn't acknowledge it. I put my other hand on his shoulder and I told him I was naked. He then asked how long it was going to take me to get changed into something else.<br><br>I told him I didn't have anything else and I asked him if I could stay in the boxers. I knew he didn't want me to, but I was trying to build up my confidence. I was scared he wasn't going to tell me no, so I asked him again.<br><br>When I asked him again, he told me I couldn't. So I got up and I went into the bathroom. I came out in a shirt and a pair of shorts, but I could tell he didn't like it. I didn't like it, either.<br><br>I sat down next to him and I put my hand on his shoulder again. I told him I was changed. He then asked what I was wearing. I told him and he asked me what was underneath. I told him there was nothing.<br><br>He then asked me if I was wearing anything and I said yes. He asked me what it was and I told him underwear. I knew he didn't believe me, but I told him the truth. He then asked me where my underwear was and I went into the bathroom and I came out with underwear.<br><br>I put my hand on his shoulder and I told him I was wearing my underwear. He asked me where my shirt and shorts went and I told him I took them off. He then asked me if I was wearing anything and I told him yes. He then asked what I was wearing and I told him my underwear.<br><br>He then asked if it was big enough, and I said yes. I put my hand on his shoulder again and I told him I was covered up. He then asked if it was enough for him and I asked him why I had to cover up for him. He then asked me if he could see and I told him yes. <br><br>He then asked me what I was wearing and I told him underwear. I put my hand on his shoulder and I told him I couldn't tell him anything else. He asked me what color and I told him pink. He asked if it was big enough and I told him yes.<br><br>After that night, my husband hasn't been attracted to me. When I took a shower and I slid the door open, he came in and he stood there watching me. The next time, he brought his phone in and he filmed me.<br><br>I told him I didn't want him to and he put his phone up on the shelf. Last night, I was trying to sleep and he turned on the light and he came into my bathroom. He asked if I was sleeping and I told him no. He then asked if I was wearing anything and I told him yes. <br><br>I then blocked his view by putting my body in front of the shower. He then asked what I was wearing and I told him. He asked me again if it was big enough and I told him yes. <br><br>The next morning, when he went to take his shower, I filmed him with my phone. I put it on the shelf with his and I turned the camera on him. When he saw the light, he turned it off and he turned the water off. He then came out of the bathroom and he told me to give him that.<br><br>I gave him my phone and he broke it. He then threw the shower curtain at me and he went into the bedroom and he slammed the door.<br><br>That night, he asked me again what I was wearing when I went to sleep. I told him underwear and he asked if it was big enough. I told him yes. Then he asked me again in the morning, and I told him underwear.<br><br>He asked if it was big enough and I told him yes. Today, he asked me if I was wearing anything when I came home. I told him yes and he asked what. I told him a shirt, and he asked if it was big enough. I told him yes.<br><br>He then asked if it was enough for him and I asked him why I had to cover up for him. He then asked if I could cover up more and I told him no. He then asked me if he could see and I told him yes.<br><br>I told him what I was wearing and he asked again if it was big enough. I told him yes. <br><br>Over the past few weeks, my husband has been acting differently. He went through all of my clothes and he threw out anything short or tight. He asked me if I was going to wear lingerie to bed and I told him no.<br><br>He told me he didn't like it and I asked him why. He then asked if I could wear big t shirts