I (28M) feel so out of place in my partner’s (30F) home

I really like Anna, we started seeing each other a little over three months ago. We both live in Oregon, I’m from California and she’s a native Oregonian. I’ve been spending more time at her place and I just can’t help but feel incredibly out of place. She has a lot of eccentricities in how sh e lives her life, and I feel like she’s a really different person when she’s at home compared to when we’re seeing the world together. <br><br>Her place is covered in various items she’s collected while traveling, and it feels like I’m staying in a museum. Every time I go over there, I feel overwhelmed and like an intruder. She has a hard time throwing anything away, and she keeps everything, even though she hasn’t used some of these items in years. She’s also very particular about how things are placed, and she gets frustrated if I move anything out of place. I’m a bit of a neat freak myself, but I don’t think that’s the issue. It’s more about how I feel like I don’t fit into her world when I’m at her place.<br><br>When we’re out, she’s adventurous, spontaneous, and fun. She’s always up for trying new things, and I really enjoy that about her. But when I’m at her home, it feels like I’m in a different person’s life, and I struggle to connect with her on that level.<br><br>I’ve tried talking to her about how I feel, but she just sees it as me being tidy freak. I don’t know how to bridge the gap between how we are together and how we are at her home.