My husband (M43) said he was only "worthy" of someone who made over $250k/year because that's what he was used to. I (F41) make significantly more than that.

I (F41) got married to my husband (M43) 2 years ago after being together for 10 years. I make significantly more money than him. When we first started dating, I was making around $65k a year, while he was making $160k a year. When I had our son 5 years ago, I took a job as a contractor with one of my former employers to be able to spend more time at home. I started out at $80/hour, but after a while, my employer raised it to $90/hour to keep me from leaving because I was making far more than a full time employee who happened to have the same job. That means on a 30 hour work week (I take off Monday to be with our son), I make about $257k a year. <br><br>I knew when we started dating his career was far more successful than mine, but I thought that was not important because we had a lot of other things in common. We want the same number of kids, we live in the same area, we want the same type of dogs, etc. However, for the last 2 years, I did something that I've never done before in our relationship. I started pushing things on him, especially things related to money. He wants a private jet? I say no because we don't need that. He wants to buy a mansion? I say no because that's so extravagant and unnecessary. I didn't even mind when he would make demands and decisions for us because I know we both want the best for our family. But now, he wants me to make decisions based on what someone with his background and experience would want. <br><br>For example, I signed up for high deductible health insurance because it meant lower premiums, which was important to me since I've gone in and out of underinsured for a decade. He was disappointed and wanted me to change it to a lesser deductible for a higher premium. I told him I didn't think it was a good use of money. He said something along the lines of, "You're making the money. Why not buy the better insurance?" I told him that's not how I see it because I make good money, but I didn't make over $250k a year like he did for most of our relationship. He said that's the threshold for what's comfortable to spend on things like health insurance. I didn't think much of it. <br><br>Yesterday, he said I wasn't "worthy" of him because I didn't make over $250k a year. I was confused and asked him what he meant. He said that I didn't know what it's like to be with someone who made over that amount, who has that kind of money and spending habits. I felt offended. He basically said I was basically trailer park trash because I made less than him, and I shouldn't be getting used to private jet rides, expensive cars, and $800 dinner bills because they aren't for someone like me. <br><br>I have no idea what to do. I don't want to be in a relationship where he thinks I'm not worthy of basic things because of my income.