I (28M) found out that my son (5M) isn't biologically mine. An emergency custody hearing has deemed that I've been unfair to my wife (27F) and that she's getting full custody, with a possible divorce when her probation is up (she's been humanized to me after pulling a knife on me in front of our …

Hello, I want to start off by saying thank you to anyone who'll listen and give some much needed advice. Yesterday I had an emergency custody hearing because of incidents my son's mother pulled on me. First off, my son's mother and I were high school sweethearts, we had our fair share of fights when we were teenagers, but never anything violent. When we turned 18 we got married and soon after our wife got pregnant with our son. Before he was due our son's mother had started cheating on me. I forgave her, but things kept happening. While she was pregnant she met a co-worker, which eventually became her lover. She told me after our son was born, she told me she wanted a divorce, I forgave her again, and told her to go. I let her have our son every other weekend and paid for her rent and all their expenses. I went back to school, I was in the military when the kids mother got pregnant, I got out so I could be a good father. While I was in school, I discovered our son had been cheated on by his mother's lover since he was a few months old (he's now 5). I made her take him to a doctor's appointment, where I met a counselor, and she recommended that we go to family therapy. I couldn't forgive the things that my son's mother did to me or our son, and after back to back therapy sessions, I was granted full custody of our son. I moved to a different side of town to give our son a better life, and to take some of the string off of me so I could study more, and go to school. When I had more free time, I started dating again. Our son's mother hated that I was dating again, but our son didn't seem to care. She wasn't always the easiest person to live with, she didn't work, and she relied on me to feed her, shelter her, and pay for her car. Over the last 5 years she's pulled a knife on me, pushed me, pulled my hair, and talked badly about me in front of our son. I let all that happen, because I felt that as a father I had to let our son have both parents. I never called the police when she pulled the knife on me, and I never told our son that she wasn't my wife. Yesterday at a custody hearing, my wife's new husband called the police when she pulled a knife on me in front of our son. I was put on the stand and I told the judge and the police everything that has happened between my wife and I since our son was born. After a long fight, I was finally granted back full custody of our son, and it was ruled that our son should be told the truth. I also have the option of divorce, which I'm taking, as I don't want our son to grow up seeing someone abuse another person. Also, our son's maternal "father" has a criminal record. My wife was also sentenced to 2 years of probation. It's been almost 24 hours since the hearing. Our son is in my arms right now, crying and hugging me and screaming "I knew you were my real dad! I told them all you were!" I kept his words in my ears as I held him, so that I wouldn't get too emotional. He's saying things like "Why did you have to let her abuse you?" "I don't want mom to abuse anyone else." I keep hugging him and telling him that everything will be okay, even though I have no idea how we'll make it okay. My wife kept telling our son that I was letting her abuse me. How do I explain that it's not her job to stop me from being hurt? We've gotten into a local hotel, I don't feel comfortable staying at my own house with my wife. I don't know how to deal with my son dealing with his mother trying to abuse anyone else. How should I deal with this? TL;DR! - My son's mother cheated on me, our son is mine biologically, she's getting 2 years probation for pulling a knife on me. She's getting full custody, which I'm planning on fighting in court.

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