My husband (33M) has thrown me and our kids under the bus to his family. Now he’s asking me (33F) to choose which child to save. How can he do this?

I have never felt like this before. My husband (33M) and I (33F) have been married 10+ years. We have four kids together. Yesterday my husband took our two oldest kids to visit his family in another state. We have always had a nanny watch the younger two (6f & 3m) but I am currently in the ICU fighting for my life. <br><br>The short version of my story is that I was in a terrible car accident that left me with a significant brain injury and a long list of injuries. After days of being in and out of the consciousness, I am now in the ICU fighting for life. I have little to no memory, and I’m in terrible pain. <br><br>My husband left me just before my accident. He was going through an affair, he wasn’t supporting me, he was threatening to divorce me, etc. I know I may have made mistakes during our marriage, but this wasn’t the man I married. I was devastated and heartbroken when I found out. I’m still in shock today. <br><br>My family is currently flying out to support me. We are all staying in the hospital with me. I don’t know what to do. The house is completely empty. My kids need food and a safe place to be. <br><br>I reached out to my husband to see how the drive was going and to ask him to please pick up diapers for our youngest. His response was this message:<br><br>“I only have enough money for gas and food for myself and the kids with me. I will send you money for diapers but I won’t be able to buy them myself. And I will not tell you the names of the children that will come with me. You will have to guess which ones are with me. If you get it right on the first try I’ll send you the name of the child/children.”<br><br>I sent him a text asking if this was some kind of joke because how would I possibly guess which kids were with him? And how could he not bring all of our kids?<br><br>He responded to me saying that I had thrown the younger two away from him during our marriage and that they were now family to him and he had grown to love them. But they weren’t my children anymore. I had abandoned them to him and that’s all he sees them as now. <br><br>He also told me not to worry because I won’t be around long and by then he would have decided which of our kids to divorce me over. He said that he would leave the older two with his family but that he would want to keep at least one of our younger children.<br><br>He also told me that I should be grateful he was willing to choose one of our children to be his. He also told me that he was choosing between our two oldest children and one of the younger two. So either our 6 year old or our 3 year old would be without parent for a while. <br><br>I have no clue what to do. I’m so overwhelmed by fear and sadness and pain and stress that I just want to give up. I’m fighting with everything I have to survive this. I have to save my kids. But how do I do that when they aren’t all with me? And how do I protect my kids from the man I used to love?