Confessions of a former incel

I was a hardcore incel in my teens. I'm now a 26 year old married guy.<br><br>I know it's easy to get into the mentality of "women aren't compatible with us and don't like us" or "it's because of our looks".<br><br>I've been all those incels who tell each other "look how fuck hot this guy/girl is! If only we were as good looking as them we could get a gf". We've fucking had enough time to grow and to improve our lives and we don't do shit. It's all just "wait until you're 40" bullshit. I was an incel for 15 years and I'm now 26. I'm not special but I've realised it's 100% our own fault. <br><br>When I was in high school and university I would watch the successful jocks bang hot girls and tell myself "man, if only I was like that". When I started dating, I dated fat girls (which is fine, if you like fat girls, I just don't) and got upset when I realised "man, I could have had a hot one". It's easy to fall into this mentality but it's a mental trap. <br><br>It took me a while to grow up and to fuck off from this mentality. I've started dating a hot girl and realised I can do it. I fucking did it. I don't have to wish this existed and I don't have to be a woman hater.<br><br>I just fucking did it. And so can you. Don't keep wishing you were this and that. Fuck off. I'm sorry you're struggling and I hope you improve your life.