I'm not even an incel, but when I get called cute it doesn't feel like a compliment, it feels like a backhanded insult

Firstly I'm a girl, but I relate much more to the celibate chambers than I do to the female ones. I've had sex, but I've been single for three years, and I identify as aro and aromantic. I can't stand people, and the idea of even talking to someone makes me feel sick. I get called cute a lot, and it doesn't feel like they're complimenting me, it feels like they're calling me stupid or something.<br><br>I don't know how to explain it, when someone calls a guy cute, it's like saying they're hot but in a non sexual way. But when they call a guy cute, it feels like they're calling me inferior or lesser than them or something. Idk I can't explain it properly.<br><br>Edit: I'm not saying it's always a backhanded insult, but in my case I feel like it is because I'm aro and celibate and can't stand people so when they call me cute it doesn't feel genuine.