My wife 10 years older than me

I'm 34 M and my wife 10 years older than me.<br>Married in 2020, due to I was alone for most of my life, wanted a child and someone to take care of.<br>My wife was a calm and nice woman, overall.<br><br>I've been married for 4 years now, and we had our child in the last 5 years, a female with 3 years old.<br>We have a 3 years difference between my wife and I, as my wife is 37 now, not 37 as my overall age, which I've found very confusing.<br>She was calm and nice, that was the reason why I've married her btw.<br><br>She was not what I'd call a hopeless romantic, but still had her own ways to show her love, I think.<br><br>However.<br>The situation was calm in the 4 years, with no major issues other than her calm attitude was starting to piss me off.<br><br>I don't know what's happening to her, btw.<br><br>She was not what I'd call "lazy", she worked from home as a software engineer, and spent extensive amount of time.<br>The reason I say that is because she does not do anything around the house, as cooking, laundry, cleaning, etc.<br><br>But the issue is not that, it's just that she's doing nothing at all. Not even with her job, not even with our child, not even with me, just none of it.<br><br>As a software engineer, she does not answer any of her work questions, and just let it go, the issue might persist and she does nothing, or maybe she does something.<br>I don't know.<br><br>But I know that.<br>She's not answering any of her calls, not even her work calls.<br><br>She's not cooking or making lunch, I had to make my own lunch for a long time, as she just does not care.<br><br>She's not answering her child, my child, whenever she's crying or upset, just ignore that.<br><br>She's not answering any of my questions, and just gives me random answers, like "Okay, I'll make lunch, but I'm busy", and she does not make lunch.<br><br>If I try to get any of her attention, she just gives THIS look, as if I'm just bothering her, like I'm just bothering her.<br><br>I'm not sure what's going on, btw.<br><br>All of sudden, in 2022, her attitude changed, but she always had that, and level of self care, or maybe I'm just over imagining  things, as I don't know what women do, but the situation was changing.<br><br>However.<br>I've faced a lot of issues with this situation, and the child is suffering from that as well, as her not answering her, or not taking care of her, and just leaving her alone.<br>And that's just one of the issues.<br><br>And I think that.<br>The issue is.<br>She's not taking care of the child, and that's the biggest issue, I've found btw.<br><br>I'm a software engineer too, I work from home too, and I spend a lot of time with my work, but I always find time to play with my child, take care of her and make sure she's fine.<br><br>But my wife does not, she just spends a lot of time working from home, but not even with her work, as she's just leaving it go.<br><br>I was very patient and understanding, as I know that.<br><br>Women are sluts, and they just do not care.<br>It's not their issue, it's not their problem, it's all men's fault.<br><br>But I can't tolerate it, THIS thing, that she's doing, just overall.<br><br>I'm tired of this, and it's going to suck if I'm gonna divorce her, but I'm thinking about that these days.<br><br>However.<br>A friend of mine, he's a 40 years old, and very kind, smart and nice guy, I've talked with him about  this and he said.<br><br>"Your wife is not happy in her life"<br><br>I don't know what's going on, but I know that.<br>If a man, THIS man, was saying that, then I should.<br><br>I don't know what's going on, but overall, I'm tired of this, but the biggest issue is that.<br><br>She's not taking care of her own child, and that pisses me off.<br><br>That's all for now, thanks for reading.<br><br>Edit: <br>I've removed the thing about "women are sluts, just overall" as it's too much and was a mistake, as this is not the chamber for that, and I apologize for that.