I wonder if women would be surprised to learn that many of us single men are better off without them.

I have a buddy who's going through divorce and his ex-wife is now in a panic. She sends him emails, texts, voicemails, and she's even gone as far as to show up at his place of work to show him that she's still "crazy" about him. She was somebody that he's had a crush on since childhood, probably one of the most unattainable women in his life, and now she wants him back.<br><br>So, we were talking about this over a beer and we somehow got into the psychoanalysis of her behavior. My take is that she's probably going out there and fucking somebody else, but she's just not feeling fulfilled in the relationship that she's supposed to be in, which is marriage. She's not finding enough meaning or satisfaction in the relationship that she's supposed to be in and it's likely that she's cheating on him.<br><br>My friend agreed that his ex is probably fucking somebody else, but he actually went ahead and said that she definitely is and that the reason she's panicking is because her affair partner is probably a low value man who doesn't satisfy her like he used to, and he's also not as wealthy as him. He believes that she's just not getting the kind of satisfaction that she wants from her life right now so she's trying to rekindle something with him.<br><br>I agree with him, but for whatever reason, I just got this image in my head of her going out to a bar or a club, picking up a guy, and bringing him home. I got this psychoanalytical idea that she was probably using my buddy as a benchmark to see how other men measure up to him. Kind of like when a man compares other women to his ex-girlfriend or to a woman that he's had a crush on for years but couldn't get.<br><br>This is of course purely speculative, but what I mean is that I think that my buddy's ex is probably going out there and fucking other men, and when she compares them to him, she's actually disappointed. She was probably expecting to find another man just like him out there and when she didn't, she realized just how good she had it and how much she actually took him for granted.<br><br>I think that a lot of women out there are probably like this. They'll go out there and have a bunch of one night stands with men who they probably don't even find that attractive. They're probably using these men as a benchmark to see how they measure up to their ex-boyfriend or their husband. They're probably doing this and are probably disappointed with the results.<br><br>The thing is that when a woman does this, she probably just moves on to the next man and treats him like a benchmark as well. She does this until she finally finds a man who she thinks is as good as her ex, but by that time, she's probably accumulated a lot of emotional baggage and has a lot of trust issues so she's not really a "catch" at all.<br><br>This is just my take on it, but I do know that a lot of single women out there probably don't know what they want. So they just keep going out there and fucking somebody else until they find that thing that brings them satisfaction. They probably fuck around and then eventually settle down with a man who they think is probably their only option or whatever.