I’m the director of a big charity, which helps women with kids.

Hi everyone. First of all, I’m sorry if I’m interrupting something. I’m not the typical “I have 10k subs to this sub but I think feminism is bad”. I’m here in good faith, and I’ve done what I have done in my life because I wanted to make a change in the society, in the world. I was inspired by the ex-CEO of the local red cross, at the time. But I’ve fallen into some kind of trap, which in my opinion affects even other people than just myself. <br><br>I’ve worked my ass off to be where I am, but I’m not the one doing anything. I’m just a puppet, a figure, a head. The ones doing all the hard work, the battle for the foundation, were women. A lot of them. We’ve always been outnumbered by them, and I’ve never been in a position of power, which I was not allowed to use. <br><br>Ladies and gentlemen, this is not an “I’m better than them” post, this is an “I’m not better than them, nor were I ever allowed to be in the first place” post. We were granted by our state a million dollar project to build a state-owned hospital, in which we get to choose who gets treated, and who not. We were granted this project by a panel of 12 judges, 11 of which were women. Guess who got to choose the director? <br><br>I’m not here to make it seem like we’re victims, nor that we should be pitied. But I’m not the CEO of that hospital. We’re not the ones getting treated, nor the ones who get to choose. We’re the ones getting fuck’d.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>Edit: 1: THANK YOU FOR THE SUPPORT. It’s people like you what made me feel human again. We, men, are nothing but a way to make more money, we’re what keeps them alive, and in power. My wife told me to man up, that I’m not a victim, and that if I say or write this to someone else she’ll leave me and take our daughter with her. I think she could be right, that I’m talking nonsense, that men are privileged in many other ways. I don’t wanna think I’m a victim, I wanna think we’re equals. I’m not writing this because I think we should be treated better, I’m writing this because I want us to be treated equally. <br><br>2: I think I’ve only answered 4 comments. I’m gonna try to answer as much as I can at this point. Sorry for that. English is not my native language. I’m from Argentina. There’s a lot of comments asking me to give numbers. I can’t give you the exact numbers, but I can tell you that the percent of women working in our hospital is 70%. Also, the panel which decides how the money gets distributed consists of 11 women, and 3 men. 2 of the men are at the bottom of the chain. They’re two old men who work at the construction company that are in charge of the project. They don’t get to choose anything, nor are they in charge of the legal/financial department. Everything is in the hands of the women. One of them is in her 40s, and she’s in charge of construction. She’s also the CEO of the construction company, and she’s the only one who knows what goes on in that side of the project. The other one in his 40s is our CFO. He’s not being paid by our foundation, nor does he answer to it. He’s paid by the government, and he answers to it. I don’t think that helps us in any way. We don’t get to decide who gets treated. We don’t get to decide how the funds are distributed. We don’t get to decide anything. <br><br>3: I’ve seen a lot of comments saying that we should be unionizing, that we should fight for our rights, that we should say something to someone. I’ve talked to other men who work in the foundation, and they don’t wanna hear it. They know that they depend on us to survive, that we feed them and their families, that they wouldn’t be in the position they are if it weren’t for us. But they also know that they’re in power, that they have power over us, that they decide everything. This is a vicious circle in which the only ones who lose something are us. <br><br>Thanks for reading. Have a better day than I did. <br><br>Pd: Sorry if some words are not well translated. English is not my native language.<br><br>Edit: I’m overwhelmed by the support I’ve gotten. I’ve never felt what I felt today, that I was part of a community, that I wasn’t alone, that I wasn’t a burden but that I had a burden. I’ve even gotten some death threats, and some comments insulting me. But they make me wanna puke. I don’t wanna be like them. I’m not gonna answer any comments from now on. I might answer some tomorrow, but I’m not gonna spend the entire night doing it. I’m gonna close this, and maybe I’ll never open it again. But you guys have given me the gift of freedom, of equality.<br>Thank you.