AITA for telling my parents to pay me back the 42k they gave me

Background: My sister and I have a somewhat weird "rivalry" in a way I'd say. Like ever since we were little my parents have said things like "your sister is so much prettier then you" and vice versa. It's a lot of passive stuff and my parents always denied it but it definitely affected us. It was always "your sister got this score so you should get at least this" or "why can't you be a good girl like your sister?" Even though we're adults now that mindset has stuck around in a lot of ways. <br><br>My sister got married young, so she doesn't work. She's a full time mom and wife and the only time she's worked a job was when she was 16 and 17. I on the other hand didn't want to get married right away. I took my time and got a degree in accounting and I've gotten really lucky and gotten a pretty high paying job. I can afford most of the things I want so I do tend to spoil myself a bit. I have a really nice car and I go on nice trips occasionally. It's not something I do a lot but it's enough to where my parents have commented about it before and how I should save more. I actually do save but I also believe in living a little so I do try to go out and have a bit of fun<br><br>My sister's husband is a bit of an asshole in my opinion. He constantly makes comments about how I should settle down and find a man and how I'm "wasting" my time being single. I've asked my parents to say something about it but they never do. I don't really care about their opinion so I just ignore it. But when my sister was pregnant with her second kid, she and her husband had issues financially. Like they were getting evicted and their car was in danger of being towed. I don't know the specifics of it because they don't want to burden us with that info but they needed a lot. They didn't want to go to a bank so they asked our parents for money. They gave them 42,000 which is a lot to me but they said it was no problem. Apparently they make enough where that wasn't a whole lot for them. <br><br>What got me angry was when my sister's husband told me I should give them money as well. I said no and he had the nerve to ask why. He told me I make a lot and I don't have a family to provide for I should be able to spare a bit. I didn't want to get in a fight with them so I left. I didn't speak to them for awhile but I did tell my parents what was said. They said they'd talk to him but I don't think they ever did. <br><br>Just a few days ago I was talking to my parents about visiting them and my sister's husband said I should pay them back the 42,000 they gave me. I was really surprised so I asked what he meant. He told me that when I was 19 my parents gave me 42,000 but I had no idea. I asked my dad about it and he said yes. Apparently when I was 19 my parents paid off all my debt and lent me 10,000. They took out 32,000 for themselves and then gave me all that money. They just never told me. I was so mad I can't even begin to describe it. <br><br>I told them they should pay me back the 42,000 they "lent" me in the first place. They started arguing saying that they had no way of knowing I'd get a good job or that I'd use the money properly and they had to gamble a bit. I told them they still have a responsibility as parents and what they did was wrong. They didn't like that so they left. We haven't spoken since and I haven't seen them. <br><br>AITA for wanting my parents to pay me back the 42,000 they gave me?