My (M27) sister (F25) got my (M27) wife (F28) the worst birthday gift ever

I'm in a bit of a confusion here, and would appreciate some third-party perspective. We all live in the same town, so we have close family ties. My sister and my wife are friendly, but they are not the best of friends. Never have been, but they are not hostile towards each other either. My wife is the type of person who keeps to herself.<br><br>My wife recently celebrated her 28th birthday. I threw her a big surprise party, and she was very happy with all the gifts she received. Everything was perfect and she had the time of her life. But my sister didn't get her a gift. She kept saying she will buy her a thoughtful gift, and my wife was naturally looking forward to it.<br><br>But few days ago, I was taking out the trash, and I noticed something very strange. My wife was hugging and hugging our garden gnome. At first, I thought she was just being playful and affectionate with our little gnome. I took the trash out, and her behavior was still the same. She was holding it and hugging it so tightly. At that point, I was very confused and thought maybe she was just trying to be playful and adventurous.<br><br>But then I noticed my sister watching my wife hugging the gnome with a very smug expression on her face. She kept saying "I'm glad you like it, I put a lot of effort into selecting it." And that's when I realized what my wife was actually doing.<br><br>I confronted my sister and learned that she had given my wife a garden gnome as a birthday gift, and my wife was accepting it graciously. I was appalled by how inappropriate it was. The garden gnome had nothing to do with my wife's interests or anything she cares about. It was just a random gift. I felt embarrassed and ashamed to be associated with the person who did this.<br><br>I didn't confront my sister or say anything, but I was fuming inside. I felt betrayed and disrespected. After that, my wife put the gnome back in the garden and kept it there, not thinking much of it. I was thinking to myself the entire time "is this a joke? How could she do this? What was she thinking?" The whole thing just felt very disrespectful.<br><br>That night, my wife and I were talking in bed and she asked me if I had noticed her receiving a strange birthday gift. I didn't say anything at first but she kept asking until I finally told her the truth. We both couldn't stop laughing and we teased each other for a while, but deep down I was still hurting.<br><br>The next day, I went to my sister's house and confronted her. I asked her why she had bought my wife a garden gnome as a birthday gift. She just shrugged it off and said she thought it would be a unique and thoughtful gift. I told her that it was inappropriate and disrespectful and that she should have put more thought into it. She didn't say anything and just looked at me with a blank expression. I left feeling angry and betrayed.<br><br>My wife being the calm and understanding person she is, didn't make a fuss about it. She just laughed it off and said it wasn't a big deal. But to me it was. It felt disrespectful and insulting. I feel like my sister didn't think about my wife's feelings or what she would really like. She just did whatever she felt like doing and expected my wife to be grateful and appreciative. It felt like she was mocking my wife and making fun of her.<br><br>I've been thinking about this a lot and I'm starting to wonder if I'm overreacting. Maybe I'm being too sensitive and making a big deal out of nothing. But for some reason, I just can't shake this off. I keep thinking about it and feeling upset and angry. I feel like my sister's gift was a slap in the face and a sign of disrespect. I'm not sure what to do or how to feel about it. Part of me wants to confront my sister again and express my feelings, while another part of me thinks I should just let it go and move on.<br><br>Has anyone else ever experienced something like this? What would you do in my situation? I feel like I'm stuck in a dilemma and I need some advice.