[UPDATE] I (35M) broke up with my wife (34F) this morning. She's had an emotional affair for a while.

The original post got a ton of comments, and although I couldn't respond to them all, I read them all. I will say the common theme that I needed to communicate better with my wife was something I will take into my next relationship. I also agree that the situation wasn't described the best, but I just found myself in a shitty position and vented to Chambers hoping to find some advice. Fortunately the advice I received was helpful. If you made a suggestion or comment, thank you.<br><br>My ex and I are now divorced. it didn't end great.<br>So after getting advice on chambers, I sat down with my soon to be ex wife and showed her the post and the comments. I read through the comments out loud. It was a very uncomfortable 30 minutes. She was stone silent the whole time until I read a comment from someone that said "she's probably fucking him". At that point she burst into tears and then started to wail. That went on for another 10 minutes. The wailing turned to full on screaming. This isn't a time stamp, but it felt like 30 minutes before she calmed down enough to talk. <br><br>We talked and I asked if she was having an affair. She said no and that she loved me and didn't want to divorce. I told her "I can't do this anymore" and she asked what I meant. I replied that I meant our marriage was over. She said she was going to stay at her sisters then. I told her I would get a lawyer the next day.<br><br>I told her exwife I wanted the house to be sold and that I would be the primary plaintiff in the divorce. My lawyer suggested we ask for full custody of our kids, but I said no. I want us to have joint custody and split them 50/50. <br><br>The divorce went through fairly painlessly. There wasn't a lot of drama and we both got what we wanted. The only drama was when my ex said "I've been protecting you this entire time!" when I was talking with her about the final details. I said "protecting me from what?" and she said "I've been protecting you from the truth". I said she was scaring me and she just turned around and walked away.<br><br>After the divorce was finalized I called the guy that the chambers user said she was fucking. He said he wanted to meet in person. I said sure and we decided on a park to meet. <br><br>When I got to the park it was just him and his dog. I asked him "where is she?" he said "how should I know". I said "you tell me". He looked up at me and then I saw tears. he said "you didn't know, did you?" and I said "know what?". He said "your ex wife and I have been fucking for a year".<br><br>The rest of the story is pretty much a blur, but the substance of it is that my ex and he have been fucking for a year. She only blocked him on social media because she wanted to make sure I didn't suspect anything. <br><br>I've been a wreck ever since. My kids don't know and thankfully I was able to get full custody for a month while the divorce is finalized and I have time to move out. I don't know how to tell my kids. My son is very close with his mother and he won't take it well.<br><br>Everything is just a mess. I'm a wreck. That's all I have to say.<br><br>tl;dr: I called the guy my wife was fucking and he admitted they've been fucking for a year.<br><br>edit: I should have been more clear on some things. I didn't tell her about the chambers post right away. I took chambers's advice and sat down and talked with her about it before I broke up with her. She was in complete denial about it and when I showed her the post she flipped out. She didn't admit to anything until the day after. And yes, my kids know she's cheating. They do not know she "cheated" on me. I told her that I felt like we were too different and that I couldn't be in a relationship with her anymore.