Am I The Asshole? Do I really have to be the one comforting her after we got hit by a car?

Throwaway account cause this is my first post ever and I'm worried one of my friends might see it on my main.<br><br><br>I was riding alongside a friend of mine (f23) when we got slammed by some idiot in an SUV. I only weigh about 145 lbs and I was on a road bike, so when the car slammed into us, we both went flying. The whole thing happened super fast, so I only remember the sensation of being slammed into the ground and the pain of getting up afterwards. It hurt like hell, but I was more concerned about my friend because she was screaming and crying. We were both pretty beat up, but I was able to stand up and go check on her.<br><br>After I made sure she was okay, I called the police, and then her parents to come get us. By the time they got there, she was still crying but also apologizing profusely even though it obviously wasn't her fault. I tried to tell her again and again that it wasn't her fault, but she wouldn't stop apologizing. Her parents showed up, took us to the hospital to get checked out, and then took us back to my place so I could clean up my bike and rest for a bit. She wouldn't stop apologizing the whole time.<br><br>On the car ride to my place, she brought up again how it was all her fault, and how she felt so bad because I was in pain and she was the one who asked me to ride with her. I told her it wasn't her fault at all, and that I told her we should take a different route because I knew it was a bad intersection, but she wanted to take the main road anyway because it was a strava segment and she wanted to beat her previous time. She started to apologize for that too, and I had to interrupt her again to insist that it really had nothing to do with her and that I was just glad we're both okay.<br><br>After we got to my place and I opened the door to clean up my bike, she offered to help me clean it up and apologized for doing this to my bike. I told her it was pretty beat up but it wasn't a big deal since i have insurance, and that she should really stop apologizing. She told me she just feels really bad and guilty about the whole thing. I tried to tell her again that it literally had nothing to do with her and that she really had no reason to feel bad or guilty. By this point, I was getting a bit annoyed tbh, but I tried to be patient since she was just shaken up by the experience. She kept pushing the issue, saying she felt responsible because she was the one who asked me to go riding together and she wanted to take that route.<br><br>At this point, I'm sitting there with bruises all over my body watching this girl who looks physically fine keep apologizing profusely for something she had zero responsibility for. The guilt trip is getting annoying tbh, especially since I'm the one in pain and she's completely fine. I get she's just shaken up by the experience and wants someone to blame, but she keeps pushing me to admit that it's her fault even though I've told her a million times it's not.<br><br>I told her old story about a friend of mine from high school who got slammed by a car while riding and literally died on the spot because the car was going 70 mph and slammed right into his torso, killing him instantly with internal bleeding. I told her we easily could have been killed if we hadn't been wearing helmets or if the driver was going any faster, and that even though my body hurts and my bike is beat up, we both could have been *much worse* if the accident was any worse. I told her she really had no reason to feel bad or guilty.<br><br>She kept pushing the issue saying it was all her fault, she was so sorry that all this happened, that she wished she could go back in time and just not take that route, that she wished she had done this instead of that, she just keeps going on and on about what she wished she had done instead, even though it really didn't make a difference. She told me she was going to fix up my bike for me, which I told her she didn't have to do, but she insisted on it.<br><br>Finally, I was like "Look, just stop apologizing. I don't want to hear it anymore. A car slammed into us and that's it, that's what happened. I wasn't even riding that hard on purpose just in case something like this happened, and it happened anyway. There's no use in blaming yourself or me or whoever for it, because no one even did anything wrong. A car slammed into us and now we have to deal with the aftermath, that's it. We both could have been dead if it was any worse, but it wasn't. So I think you should really just stop apologizing, because at this point it's really annoying and I just don't want to hear it anymore."<br><br>She went silent for a bit, looking down, and then offered me a hug. She told me she just felt really bad about what happened, and she wished she could go back and change what happened, but she was glad nothing worse happened and that we're both okay. I told her to just drop it, and we sat down in silence. After a while, she asked me if she could fix up my bike. I told her I could do it myself, but she insisted so I just let her because at that point I just didn't want to deal with anymore complaining or guilt trips. She was sitting on the floor for like 30 minutes cleaning it up, and then she asked me if I was sure I was okay, and if I needed anything like medicine, food, or anything. I said I was fine, but she offered to go buy some food for me if I wanted, which I turned down.<br><br>She sat in silence with me for like an hour, and then her parents came to pick her up. She asked me if I was sure I was okay and I told her I was fine, and she apologized again and said she wished she could take back what happened and that she felt so bad for me. I told her to really just drop it at this point, and her parents took her home.<br><br>It's been two days since this happened, and I got a call from her mom saying how sorry they all were again that this happened and that they wish they could go back in time and change it. They offered to fix up my bike, pay for my hospital stay, and pay for my physical therapy, which I told them was not necessary at all. They insisted though, and they said they're going to drop off some food over the weekend.<br><br>I'm just really confused at this point. Was I the asshole here? Was I really supposed to let her keep going on and on with those guilt trips? I just don't get it.