Men who won't date women with kids are missing out on a lot of great women

I'm seeing a lot of posts of men saying they want a woman with no kids, preferably no bio kids and definitely no adopted kids. I can understand why they'd think this way, but to be honest, it's being extremely close-minded.<br><br>I'm an older woman, 40s, and I have two kids. Both of my parents were single mothers when they had me and my siblings, and my kids know me as a single mom. I've always known I wanted to have kids, even if it was tough. <br><br>Even though I have kids, that doesn't mean my body is shot. Sure, I've had two births, but I took care of myself the entire time. I didn't overeat or gain too much weight during pregnancy. I exercised regularly during pregnancy. I work out regularly now, even if it's not as often as it should be, and my body looks better than a lot of childless women I see. I've gotten compliments on my face, body, and butt from men and women. I'm confident, and that's important when dating.<br><br>I'm very financially secure. I've had my job since the early 2000s, and I've worked my way up. I've moved to a new state for better career opportunities, and I have a good amount of savings.<br><br>I don't rely on government assistance to live. Sure, I get some assistance for my kids, but I make sure to work hard and tip the system well. I give extra child support, I file my taxes early, and I make sure I'm doing everything I can. <br><br>I have a lot of interests, a lot of hobbies. I love fashion and beauty, I love cooking, and I love learning. I'm a huge bookworm, and I have a Master's degree to prove it. I'm well-educated, and I love to learn new things. I'm not boring, I'm not a single mom who just has kids because I can't find a man. I have kids because I wanted kids. <br><br>I'm in the dating world right now, and while I've had my share of losers, I've had a lot of winners too. One guy I met was very attractive, a single dad himself who wanted to meet a single mom. We hit it off, and we've been together a few months. I'm dating a guy right now who's not a single parent, but he loves my kids and is very understanding.<br><br>I know there are a lot of single moms who aren't as put-together, but if you're very picky about a woman not having kids, you're going to miss out. It's not always easy to be a single mom, but it doesn't mean we're unlovable or ugly or broken. It doesn't mean we're desperate for any man. <br><br>A lot of times, single moms have grown as people. We've taken on the responsibility of raising a child or children, and that's grown us in ways you may not have grown. We're very independent and self-reliant. We know what it means to work hard. We're also very loving and nurturing, because that's what moms are.<br><br>And yes, there are single moms who are not great people. That's true of any demographic. But if you close yourself off to women with kids, you're closing yourself off to a lot of great people, people who are probably more mature, financially responsible, and nurturing than women without kids.