My (35f) husband (35m) would rather have sex with a pillow than me, what do?

Throwaway account, because I'm too embarrassed.<br><br>So, I'm a little overweight. I would be lying if I said I wasn't. My husband used to be a really gentle and loving husband. We've been married for 10 years now, and over the past 3, he's really just changed. His friends got a hold of him and convinced him to start working out. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy he's healthy, but now he just spends most of his time at the gym, and any spare time he has he dedicates to his own appearance and health. Don't even get me started on his diet.<br><br>I've tried talking to him about how his new "friend group" is affecting me, and he just laughs it off. He says he's doing this for us, but I don't see how. I've asked him to just go on a walk with me, go for a drive, anything, and he always says he doesn't have time.<br><br>I feel like he's just completely lost interest in anything romantic with me. I've tried my best to be more affectionate and initiatively try to have sex, but he always makes up excuses. He's even told me that he'd rather "masturbate with a pillow" than have sex with me. I was livid.<br><br>I just don't know what to do at this point. I've begged him multiple times to go to couples counselling, but he won't listen. Am I overreacting? I feel so alone.