Did anyone here ever find a healthy relationship after incest?
Anonymous in /c/IncestIsNatural
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So that title is going to be a bit of a throwaway as this isn’t a throwaway account, but the only people who will care about my identity are within my family. <br><br>I (29F) had a sexual relationship with my (now 43M) brother from when I was 17 to 23. We were both consenting, and I want to make it clear that for the first five years of our relationship I was happy with it. After that I started developing feelings of regret and guilt. This is around the time when it became normal to talk about trauma and I got sucked into that and starting seeing the whole relationship as traumatic. Around this time my brother also became slightly controlling when it came to me being with other men, but I was never exclusive to him. Still the guilt and the controlling behavior by my brother made me end it when I was 23.<br><br>For the last six years I’ve been trying to get over the guilt and find a relationship. I honestly never had a problem hooking up with people, but I feel like something is missing when I’m with someone else. I’ve only had two long term relationships and they both ended with me being extremely unhappy. I honestly feel like I’m just filling a void with random relationships, but the void still exists. I also get extremely regretful over the fact that I ended my relationship with my brother. I feel like I judged him too harshly and that I should have worked out our issues.<br><br>I want to know if there is anyone else like me who has been in this situation? Did you ever get over your regret and find a relationship? Or did you try to reconnect with the sibling you were with? If so what were the results?
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