AITA for giving my wife a small birthday gift instead of the gift she wanted

Ive been married to my wife Mary for 13 years. We have a 3 year old daughter. Mary is a kinda pampered princess type. Her parents are well off and spoiled her a lot when she was young. She doesnt work, but she does "help" with the baby. I put that in quotes because the help she gives is very minimal. She also doesnt do any household chores and really doesnt help with anything other than picking out clothes for the baby and going on playdates with her. So when it comes to everything else, Its really on me.<br><br>For the last few years, Ive been working about 60 hours week. That is on top of my 2 hour commute each day. So I barley have any time for myself to do anything I want to do. But I also make a very good income. I choose to work a lot because I make way more than I would if I cut back on hours. Obviously this comes with a cost. I dont get to spend much time with my family and I also dont get much time to enjoy the money I make. I somewhat choose this, but it also is the way my job is.<br><br>Anyways,Mary had her birthday last week and she bought a Gucci purse for herself. It costs $1,500. Instead of giving her the $1,500 to buy that, I chose to surprise her with something else. I bought her a painting of her parents house that she grew up in. I hired a local artist to do the painting. I paid $1,500 for the painting. I thought she would really like this painting but she hated it. She wanted the purse so bad and when she saw what I got her, she was angry. I told her I did it so she could always remember her childhood home since we live across the country now. "You know what will make her remember her childhood home better than a painting? Going into this childhood home with a brand new Gucci purse" was her response. So yea, she wasnt happy at all with the gift I got her. In fact, she think I did it on purpose to spite her. She thinks I hate that she buys designer clothing and handbags and that I did this to be spiteful towards her. I dont care if she buys expensive stuff. I just thought this was a nice thoughtful gift.<br><br>Anyways, that was a week ago and things have not gotten better. In fact they have gotten worse. I woke up this weekend and found a note on my pillow. It said "You want to get me a painting of my childhood home? Well I'm going home and staying there for the week. With our daughter. And were bringing our new Gucci purse we just bought with your credit card. And taking your car because its much nicer and safer than mine. You can just have the painting for yourself" and then she drew a big "FUCK YOU" at the end of the note. When I went to the kitchen, all of the kitchen knives were stuck into the painting.<br><br>So they went to her parents for the week. They just got back today and shes still angry with me. She had all her family backing her up that this is a dick move on my part. I dont see it that way. I thought it was a nice gift. I just want to know if I was in the wrong here<br><br><br>Edit - oku so first off, thank you so much for all the feedback. I honestly had no idea so many people would reply to this. I appreciate it. I am reading through them all.<br><br>I feel like there are so many assumptions about me and my wife being made in the comments so I just want to clarify a couple things. I am not a millionaire. I dont make multiple 7 figures. I make enough to not worry about money but we are not filthy rich. Also, I am not a robot who only works. I do have some free time. Yes I work a lot but when I am home I do spend time with my family. I am present and I do tell them how much I love them. I amnt this emotionless robot who does nothing but work. I also do have hobbies. Most of them are done solo but I am in a hockey league and do play golf and basketball occasionally. And I do take my family on vacation. Lots of vacation. So this isnt the case of "I never see my husband because he never spends time with us". I honestly think if I just bought her the damn purse none of this would have happened.<br><br>Also just to clarify, I dont think all women are this entitled. I know this isnt how all women think. Im just confused on if I was in the wrong or not.<br><br>And lastly, I am waiting for her to calm down and talking with some lawyers. I have a feeling this is going to end in divorce.<br><br>Edit 2 - Ok so I was married to my wife before I got this job. We were already married when I asked her if I should take this job. I asked her if she was comfortable with me working this much. She was OK with it. Obviously she wasnt because now she is making a big deal out of it. But she was OK with it at first. Also, we do have a lot of savings. But we also have a lot of debt. I have a lot of student loan debt and we have a lot of credit card debt. Yea we can afford a lot of expensive stuff but we also make a lot of big payments every month. So while we can go on nice vacations and buy nice things, we also have a lot of financial burdens. Also, buying her the Gucci purse is not going to fix anything. Even if I bought her the purse, she would still be angry at me for not spending enough time with her. At this point, I really dont think theres anything I can do to fix it. <br><br>I am really starting to think we just arent compatible anymore. I am starting to feel like we want different things in life.