My (22f) boyfriend (24m) went on a trip with his friend (23f) and didn't tell me.
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I am at a loss for what to do and am in need of some advice. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and everything has been great. Well it was until he went on a trip and didn't tell me. I found out from his friend's dad when he called to ask me if I could pick my boyfriend up from the airport. I was so confused and when he finally called me and told me where he was I was so angry. He said that he didn't tell me because it was a spontaneous trip and he didn't want to spoil the surprise. I asked him who all was going and he said that just him and a friend. I was so mad that he didn't tell me and I told him to come clean and tell me the truth. He told me that the only other person there was his friend "Jessica" (23f). I asked him to tell me the truth again and he got mad at me for not believing him. He said that he had no reason to lie to me. <br><br>The problem is that I looked up the hotel he was staying at and there is no booking under his name. I told him this and he said that his friend must have booked for him. He said that he didn't want to spoil the surprise of the trip so he didn't book anything under his name. I want to believe him but my gut is telling me that he is lying. Am I overreacting and being paranoid?<br><br>​<br><br>tl;dr My boyfriend of almost a year went on a trip with his friend and didn't tell me. He said he wanted it to be a surprise. Am I being paranoid or should I trust my gut?<br><br>​<br><br>EDIT:<br><br>I should have added more of our backstory. We have been together for almost a year and are considered a "long distance" couple. He lives in Australia and I am in New York. We take turns flying to see each other. When the lockdown hit we were separated and weren't able to see each other for months. When things started to calm down he flew to see me for a month. He flew back to Australia and then invited me over for three months. After those three months I flew back and he also flew back with me. We have spent almost the entire pandemic together. I cannot think of any reason why he would need to go on a trip without me. Especially since he didn't tell me.<br><br>As for the hotel information I didn't break into his email or anything. The hotel I looked up also doesn't require your first and last name for a booking. <br><br>I also didn't answer some questions because some people were asking things that I already stated in the post. <br><br>I just spoke to him again and he is sticking to his original story. I told him that I didn't believe him and that he needs to come clean with the truth. He said that there was nothing to come clean to and that he was just on a trip with his friend. He was angry that I didn't believe him and didn't trust him so he said we need to take a break until I can trust him. <br><br>Thank you for all the advice that I have received so far.
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