Men who don't want women to work are still men who want women to be around and take care of them. This isn't the same as women who don't want men to work.

There's a common refrain that men shouldn't have to work because women should. The reasoning behind this is that women should be doing half the household work and childcare as well, and this is somehow an exchange for us not having to pay for childcare or a life partner. If we didn't have to pay for one, we wouldn't have to pay for the other.<br><br>But this is an obvious fallacy, because a man with a job and a partner and children who work is often *more* successful than a man without a job, but with a stay at home wife and kids. There are plenty of other reasons why men would still benefit from women working, beyond just the financial, which is one of the reasons I think men push this idea so hard. It's not that they don't want to be supported, it's that they want to be taken care of, which they can't do when they're the sole provider, and they want women to still be home for them.<br><br>And this is not true for women, for some reason. Women don't have the same psychological need to be taken care of by their partners, and so don't have the same need to be at home. They still want a partner, and they still want a good life, but they don't have to want to be taken care of. This is why we never hear women complaining about not being able to be stay at home moms, because it's not an important need for them. Women still want to work, even if they want to be mothers. This isn't the case for men, and that's why women can stay at home with their children while their husbands work, while men can't work from home and take care of their children.<br><br>And so the idea that men and women have the same needs is completely absurd. It's a way of denying us our own biology, and our own needs. And it's a way of denying that women are different from us, which we are, and that our own needs and wants are different, because they are.<br><br>Men can't have it all, because we can't take care of ourselves. We can't work and take care of our children and be good partners and be healthy, because we can't do it all alone. But women can, or at least they don't have to be as concerned with being taken care of. They can work and be mothers and be healthy, because they don't have the same need to be taken care of by us. So they can have it all, because they are different from us, and we are different from them.