You can be a decent person and still be a gynocentric asshole. This subchambers just doesn't want to believe it.

It seems like a lot of people on this sub are under the impression that people who put women on a pedestal and would defend them no matter what are necessarily nice people.<br><br>The truth is a lot of people, especially white women, are gynocentric assholes. They will do anything and everything for other women and will defend them no matter what, but will treat their male relatives, partners or friends like dirt and don't give two shits if they get destroyed in the process.<br><br>The ultimate example for me is my aunt, who I was close to as a child and my mom says was close to me as well. When I was 9, she came to visit my country to "get to know" me better, but I was very unimpressed. She was a woman of her time (late 50's), and she was very much a sexist, and not even the subtle kind either. I can still remember the look on her face when I told her I wanted to be a pilot, and her response was something along the lines of "you know what a pilot is right? You can't do that. That's a job for a man". I was baffled and asked her why, and her response was "well, women can't drive, they don't have the hands". This blew my mind, but my mom just said "she's joking, don't mind her" and she was right, my aunt was just a silly woman of her time after all!<br><br>Years later, my mom remarried and my aunt got very close to my new stepbrother. She went to his music practice every week, took care of him when he was sick, etc. All was good and well.<br><br>One time, when I was 15 or 16, my stepbrother called me a "faggot" because I was watching a music video with a male lead singer. He was about 12 at the time, and I'm sure he had been taught to say stuff like that from somewhere, but I know it wasn't my aunt, because she never taught him any negative stuff. In fact, she encouraged him to be interested in music and to play and practice, which he did. So when this happened, I told my aunt about it, and she was livid. She called my stepbrother a "sweetie" and told him "how could you say such a thing, I would never in a million years in the world call you a faggot". She also told him "don't worry, it's not a big deal, people can grow out of it. What's important is that you're a good person", and my stepbrother looked really confused when she said this.<br><br>The next day, I told my mom about the whole thing. She looked really uncomfortable and told me "don't worry about it, your aunt was just joking. She doesn't mean it". But I was sure she didn't, because when my aunt was angry, she always showed it. She was the kind of person who would say "I don't like you anymore, you're a fucking asshole. Don't ever contact me again" and would never back down on anything she said.<br><br>A few months later, my stepbrother and I were in the car with our mom, and he started making fun of gay people again. I immediately told my mom to stop the car so I could get out, because I didn't want to be around him anymore, and she did. But my aunt heard about this from my mom, and she was appalled. She told my mom "how could you let him treat your other son like that? I hope you're going to do something about it. If not, I will".<br><br>My mom told her "there's nothing to do. He's just a kid. He's going to grow out of it. It's not a big deal. It's just a phase." And my aunt told her "well, I hope he grows out of it fast, because if not, he's going to be a lonely old man. But hey, what do I know? I'm just a woman". I was sure she was joking again, but my mom said she wasn't. My aunt had just revealed to me that my mom had been lying to me my whole life.<br><br>A few months later, my stepbrother and I were at our aunt's place, and he started making fun of gay people again. This time he said "I would never date a gay guy, they're so gross" to my aunt, and she told him "well, I wouldn't date you either. You're disgusting. Go take a shower, you smell like shit". My stepbrother looked really confused and said "I'm sorry, I didn't know you knew that I smelled bad" and she told him "well, I'm sure you knew. You're not stupid. I hope you learned your lesson though, because if you didn't, I will take you to the doctor and have you tested for every possible disease. And if you have any, I will make sure you pay for it. You're old enough to know better".<br><br>I was really shocked at this point and told her "you know, you're being really mean to him. He's just a kid." And she told me "he's not a kid, he's old enough to know better. He knows what he's doing, and he's going to have to pay the price. If you can't take care of yourself, you need to let someone else do it for you. And I'm not going to." She told my stepbrother to pack his things and leave, and he did. She told me to leave too, but I didn't want to. I wanted to tell her that what she was doing was wrong, that she was being cruel to him. But I knew she wouldn't listen. I also knew she would make sure I paid for what I had said, and I wasn't ready to die.<br><br>So I left. But I knew my mom would never punish my aunt for what she did. And I was right. My aunt was never punished, and my stepbrother was never treated any better by her. He's a gynecologist now, and she's proud of him. But I'm sure if I ever tried to become a pilot, she would be appalled.<br><br>This story is to illustrate how some women can be gynocentric assholes and still expect to be defended and loved by everyone. You don't have to be a bad person to put other women on a pedestal. In fact, a lot of times you're not.