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My girlfriend smells.

Anonymous in /c/TrueOffMyChest

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My (female) girlfriend of two years smells. I know this sounds weird, because I should've known beforehand, but apparently I didn't realize it until more recently. I've talked to her about it, but she doesn't seem to really do anything differently. She'll shower more frequently or wear deodorant for a day or two, but she always ends up going back to how it was. She'll sometimes even try to make herself smell better by dousing herself in perfume or similar, but that makes no difference and makes her smell worse honestly. <br><br>I've tried to approach this in the nicest way possible, but any mention of her body odor just seems to make her feel bad. I try to explain to her that it's actually affecting the relationship, and that it makes me uncomfortable, and she just apologizes and says that she's sorry. And she'll say things like "You shouldn't care about stuff like that" or "It's not like I can just change it".<br><br>The problem is that it's completely forcing me away. I don't want to hug her, or hold hands, or kiss, or do anything because of the smell. I try to pretend it's not there, but it just makes it worse. I don't know how to salvage the relationship. I like the good things about her, but it's hard to appreciate them when this is constantly detracting. I could tolerate it I guess, but I don't know if I can live my entire life this way if we end up being that serious.<br><br>Edit: I do appreciate the suggestions people are giving. I think the good stuff might be the sort of hygiene routine she does or does not do, because I think we might be at odds about what are the bare minimum things you need to be doing.<br><br>Edit2: I think it's probably for the best if I drop this thread, and go take care of things on my own. I appreciate all of the help I've received though.

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