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Husband won’t let me do anything for my exams?

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I’ve been so nervous to post this on any social media because I’m really embarrassed that my marriage is like this. <br>I’m 23 and my husband is 25, we’ve been married officially for 1 year but have been in a relationship for over 5 years. Before marriage I used to work at a salon and he used to work in a kitchen but I quit my job so I could study for my exams now and he quit his job to work with his dad (I see no problem in this as he was in a toxic environment and he’s happy to be working with his dad now).<br><br>In the beginning of our relationship he used to love it when I studied. he’d sit and read the books I used to read aloud for practice and he’d even read them for me when I was tired of reading. I lost my hearing in one ear in 2020 and he helped me a lot through my tough time. He even helped me with audiology appointments and hospital appointments for checkups, he’s always been very supportive. <br><br>Recently though, I’m in my final year of my bachelors degree and he’s not happy. He doesn’t like when I study at home at all, he’s always begging me to go out shopping with him and to go and meet his friends and family. I feel bad because I’m saying no to him a lot but I really don’t want to fail my exams. <br>The other day I was studying and he came home from work early just to tell me to take a break and forget about my exams for now and go to the park with him. I said no because I was 2/3 of the way through my practice test and he started getting mad at me and saying I was being stubborn and making him look bad. <br><br>He’s been really emotional over the past few months since I’ve started studying for my exams and I feel guilty. He tells me that I care more about my studies than I care about him and he’s been ignoring my phone calls and messages since the fight and is hanging out with his friends and not telling me where he’s going. <br>He also told me that I’m just studying so I can work and then I’ll forget about him. <br>I started crying so much and told him that I just want to feel secure that I can get a good job one day and have enough money to take care of us both and to make sure that we’re happy together and he just called me dramatic and said I was going crazy over nothing. <br><br>Yesterday night my MIL called me and told me I needed to spend more time with my husband and to stop studying so much. I told her that I have exams and I was worried because I have a lot to read through (I’m in a medical field) and she just told me again to stop studying so much and to take breaks. I felt so bad after that phone call and I cried again and again and my husband didn’t even ask why I was crying. <br><br>I’m just so confused and I don’t know what to do anymore, I don’t want to ruin my marriage and I don’t want him to think that I don’t care about him. I do care about him but I’m just worried about my exams atm.

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