Why are anti-fat sentiments so common on this sub?

I feel like there are a lot of anti-fat comments on this sub. A lot of the time, people will say some shit like "I don't care about the health effects because love is more important than health" and other people will be like "yeah you're right, fuck all that health shit."Posts like this are usually fairly well-received.<br><br>I've also seen a lot of people go to the extent of saying something like "if you care about your own health, you're a terrible person."Posts like this are met with fairly mixed reception. Half the comments will be like "you're so brave standing up to those evil people who care about their health" and the other half will be like "oh my, I guess you're right, I'm just an evil person because I want to be healthy and live a long life with my wife."<br><br>Personally, I think both of these viewpoints are stupid as hell. There are obvious health effects to being overweight, but love is more important than health. Nobody should feel obligated to be thin just for the sake of being thin, but at the same time, I don't think anyone should feel obligated to be in a relationship with someone they find unattractive just because it's an unpopular opinion. That being said, to act as if there are no health effects to being overweight is ignorant as hell, and to say that someone being overweight makes them less attractive is just acting like a shallow asshole.<br><br>I don't find very fat women attractive, but I do find women with some extra weight on them to be more attractive than thin women. I'm not gonna sit here and act like I don't find that type of woman attractive. I'm not gonna sit here and act like I think my girlfriend's weight is somehow a bad thing when she's overweight. I'm not gonna act like I think my girlfriend's weight has no health effects just because it is a unpopular opinion. I'm not going to act like I am somehow obligated to find my girlfriend attractive just because I'm in a relationship with her.<br><br>I get that a lot of chubby women have been shamed because of their weight, and I can understand why that would be a really shitty thing to go through and how that could influence their self-esteem. But I don't see how anyone is helped by a message of self-acceptance mixed in with anti-fat sentiments. I do think people should love themselves the way they are, but I think they should do that while also accepting reality: there are some health effects to being overweight, but they aren't the end of the world, and nobody should feel obligated to be thin just for the sake of being thin.<br><br>Accepting the reality of the situation is an important part of loving yourself. If you say "I can eat all the ice cream and cookies I want and I will never get fat" and then you go and eat a lot and gain weight, you're not going to feel good about yourself. If you say "I can eat all the ice cream and cookies I want and I will get fat, and that's okay" then you will feel a lot better about yourself.<br><br>Similarly, it's okay if people find you less attractive when you're fat. It's not fair, because people should be able to control whether or not they find someone attractive, but they can't. Nobody should find it offensive if someone doesn't find them attractive. Nobody should feel obligated to find someone else attractive, and nobody should feel obligated to be attractive to someone else just because it's an unpopular opinion.<br><br>I get that the social norms surrounding weight are messed up and need to change, but that's no excuse to act like the physical consequences of being overweight and the tendency for humans to find certain body types more attractive than other body types don't exist.