I am a father who’s heart has been broken.

Hello. I am a 46 year old man. I am a husband of 23 years and father of 3. A 20 year old daughter, a 16 year old daughter, and a 14 year old son. I used to think my family was happy, I used to think that my family was everything a man could ask for. A loving wife and happy kids. We were everything a man could ask for. <br><br>My wife and I have been married for 23 years and together for 27. She was always an attractive woman, she still is. It’s no wonder I fell head over heels in love with her. She gave me 3 happy healthy children. We were the family that other families envied. <br><br>That is until our youngest daughter was born. It started out with small things, the way she would look at him, the way she would smile at him. How much she would smile when he would cry. I remember him being born and thinking, this is my last baby. My wife was in labor for almost 3 days- and when he was born, we held her and smiled at each other. She smiled at me and I kissed her. I said to her "We did it honey. We have 3 perfect babies, a beautiful daughter and 2 sons... Now we just have to watch them grow." We were both so happy. She was so happy. <br><br>As he got older, he would do things that made her smile. Crawl, walk, talk, she was there for it all. I was too. We were- and still are- happy parents. <br><br>But things started to go downhill 8 months ago. Our oldest is in college now, but she sometimes comes home on the weekends. One weekend she came home- and she told us something horrific. Our son had propositioned her. He asked her if she wanted to sleep with him. He was 13, she was 19. My wife and I were horrified. Our son had never been raised to think of family members like that. And we are a very conservative family. I had no idea how he would even think of that. We confronted him, but he told us he had already forgotten about it. And we believed him. He didn’t even know what sex was. My wife and I assumed our daughter was lying. <br><br>But, something felt off. Something felt- unsettling. My wife and I confronted our daughter, and she started to cry. I didn’t know what to do, so I held her. But- something was off. So I went to our son- and I asked him about it again. And he told me that he was very serious. He knew he shouldn’t be, but he wanted to be with his sister. I was horrified. I couldn’t believe he would think of that. I told him that it was wrong and that he would never think of it again. He said that he already had, again. <br><br>I was horrified. I told him how disgusting it was and how I would never allow him to think of his sister like that- let alone do that with his sister. I told him he had to forget about it. But I could see in his eyes that he couldn’t. <br><br>I was so confused. I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t want to tell his mother- I didn’t want to upset her. <br><br>So I didn’t. I took it to my own hands to deal with. I repeated what I said to him, over and over again. He has to forget about it, he has to. I was so upset- and heartbroken. I didn’t know what to say. I didn’t know how to help him. It changed me- forever. It changed something in me. <br><br>I am writing this in tears. I feel so lost. I am still trying to help him. He’s doing much better now- but I just can’t seem to get past it. I- I am so upset- heartbroken. I feel like everything I ever knew about family is ruined.