UPDATE - I (38M) friend and ex friend (27M) are on vacation together. He had sex with my daughters twin sister (18F) and got her pregnant. I didn’t find out until they had gotten their first sonogram and there was only one baby. I am conflicted.

Thanks to everyone who commented on my first post, it gives me a lot to think about and reflect on. <br><br>So we are still on vacation and my friend and I have been hanging out and doing things. I have made a few attempts to talk to him but I keep on deciding not to, he seems so happy to be here and I don’t want to ruin the trip. I think I’m going to bring it up right before we leave and then have some space to process.<br><br>When we got to our hotel, we decided to go to the pool. My friend and I both got lots of sunshine while there and I thought it would be helpful to cover up. I grabbed a shirt and put it on. <br><br>My friend said “wow you’re getting sun sensitive in your old age” I joked back and said “yeah I’m getting old” <br><br>He said “no I’m getting old, I feel like I have to be an adult now” <br><br>I said “What makes you feel that way?”<br><br>He said “I guess the trip, you’re my favorite friend and I’ve always felt like your little brother. Now I have a kid on the way and I feel like I’m close to being where you are in life. A lot of the pride I had about doing my own thing and living my own life is gone.” <br><br>I asked him to elaborate and he said “I just don’t have that same invincible feeling I had before. I’m on the path to be a dad and I’m not in college anymore. I have to start working and I’m probably going to settle down. I feel like I’m on the path to having a family of my own now and I’m not sure how I feel about it.”<br><br>Personally I don’t think invincibility is tied to your station in life but I do think it’s tied to age and that’s why I’m feeling it now too. I did say friend and ex friend, because I don’t know if I can ever go back to how we had things before. <br><br>I feel like this trip is a bit of a turning point for both of us and who knows, maybe I’ll still be able to see him as my little brother. Maybe we won’t be as close after this. I really don’t know friend wise. I am excited to become a grandad though. <br><br>TLDR - I've still not talked to my friend about my feelings yet. I will have a short time to do it before we leave.