My (30F) husband (31M) looked at me with disgust when he saw my postpartum body
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When I looked at my husband, I could tell he was disgusted when he saw my postpartum body for the first time. Now, I'm self-conscious about my body in front of him and it killed any intimacy we would have.<br><br>I delivered our baby only 3 months ago and it was an emergency cesarean section. <br><br>When he saw my stomach postpartum, he looked at it in disgust. He didn't say anything, but I could tell he was disgusted. It was a few weeks postpartum, and we were still in the hospital when he first saw it. I couldn't look at him in the eyes after that because I was so ashamed of my body.<br><br>Before this, I was a 4, and my stomach was flat and pretty tight. Now, I'm a 2. My stomach is waggy and has stretch marks everywhere. I have diastasis recti and it's really noticeable because my stomach sticks out so far. <br><br>I don't know how to gain his attraction again, and I don't know if he will ever find me attractive again. We have gotten close to being intimate, but he hasn't seen me naked yet because I'm too ashamed. But he has also given me no assurances that he's still attracted to me or that he loves my new body.<br><br>I'm afraid he's going to start looking at other women because I think he's disgusted by me and my postpartum body. I just don't know what to do. I feel unattractive and I don't know how to get my confidence back. I don't know if he will ever see me the same way again.<br><br>I feel like I just lost myself after having a baby. My body is different, my life is different, and my relationship is different. Nothing is the same anymore and I just don't know what to do. I feel so alone in this and I don't know what to do. Help.
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