My wife’s been begging me to let her try anal for a while. I did last night and it was incredibly enjoyable. But it also made me realise how inconsiderate I’ve been with our sex life.

We’ve been together for 10+ years, and I’ve always been the more sexually adventurous one. I think I’ve always had a bit of a problem with considering my wife’s desires (or lack thereof) when we’ve been being intimate.<br><br>I remember there being a bit of a row a couple of years ago when I wanted to try spitting on her face during sex and she said no; and I was pretty pushy about it to be fair. But for the longest time I thought it was just because she was rigid and stubborn about trying new things. Last night however, I realise that was hypocritical of me.<br><br>When she wanted to try anal with me, I immediately said no without even giving it a chance. But after she kept pushing, I somewhat reluctantly agreed to it. It was incredibly nice to be treated gently and softly by someone else for once.<br><br>When we’d finished and I had a chance to think about it, I realised that I’d been really inconsiderate with her for a long time. She’s always been quite blasé about what we do in the bedroom, which I always assumed was code for “I don’t really like anything so I’m just going to let you do what you want”<br><br>But after having the roles reversed, I’m not so sure. I feel really bad now because I can’t see her ever telling me if she’s not enjoying something or that I’ve done something she didn’t like. She’d probably even refuse to tell me if I straight up asked her in case it made me feel bad.<br><br>It’s probably incredibly dumb of me to only realise this now, but I feel really quite guilty about it. How do I both apologise and make sure we’re both enjoying our sex life?<br><br>TL;DR!: I realised I’d been selfish in the bedroom and want to make it right