I [36M] told my wife [34F] she was being too sensitive and she beat me up

So this is not something I usually do. I don't usually talk about my relationship problems on the Internet. But today I just need some advice, anything really. I love my wife more than anything and I want to make sure she's okay. I'm worried that I did something wrong and I ruined our marriage.<br><br>I've been married to my wife for three years now and we've been together for 10 so our relationship is pretty solid. It's been hard lately. With the virus, working from home, and keeping our heads above water financially. We both have jobs, we're both working from home, and life is hard. We get on each other's nerves and I feel like we've both been doing things to annoy each other.<br><br>One issue is that she keeps commenting on the amount of alcohol I drink. I don't think it's that much but I don't think it's none either. When I was young, I was an alcoholic. I went to rehab when I was 21 and I stopped drinking for three years. I still go to AA. But I decided to drink again a few years ago and I thought it was fine. But recently I've been thinking that maybe it's not.<br><br>She's been saying I drink too much. But I think she's being too sensitive. I get up, I go to work, I stop at the liquor store on the way home and grab a bottle of wine. I drink it and then we watch a movie or something. I don't think that's too much. I don't drink and drive, I don't miss work, I don't come home and beat my wife or beat my kids (we have two children, one is 5 and one is 2). I don't drink during the day. But she's been saying every time she sees me with a glass of wine, she's like, "Is that really necessary?" And I'm like, "Yes, it's really necessary."<br><br>So the other day I snapped at her. I said, "I drink too much? You're the one who's too sensitive. I don't think that's a lot of wine." She said, "I don't like to see you drinking so much." And I said, "I'm not drinking too much." She said, "I just don't like to see you drinking so much." And I said, "You're being too sensitive. I'm not drinking that much." And then she got up and punched me in the face. I was sitting on the couch so I fell over on the floor and I got up. I was so angry at her. I asked her, "Why did you hit me?" And she said, "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to. But you keep dismissing my feelings." I said, "I don't even care about your feelings. You just punched me."<br><br>So we got really into it. We were both yelling. I told her that she hit me and it hurt really bad. She was crying and I was just angry that she hit me and hurt me so bad. She was saying she was sorry and she didn't mean to and I was like, "Apology not accepted." I didn't even want to talk to her. So I just walked out the door and went to my mom's house. I didn't tell her what happened, I just told her that me and my wife had a big argument. My mom was like, "Oh, well, that's too bad." She didn't seem to care but I don't think she knew what to say.<br><br>I went back home the next day and my wife was waiting for me. She apologized and she was like, "I shouldn't have punched you. I'm sorry." And I told her I was upset she hurt me so bad and I told her she hit me like a man. She said, "I'm sorry" again. She was really sincere about it, you could tell. And I was still angry and I didn't even want to talk to her. I didn't even want to be in the same room as her. But at the same time, I really love her and I don't want to divorce her. I was like, "Apology not accepted" again and she got up and walked away.<br><br>So we're not talking right now. I'm just living in the house and not talking to her. But I really miss her. I miss my wife. I love her. And I don't want to leave her. But at the same time, I don't want to be in a marriage where my wife hits me. But I feel like it's my fault. I keep thinking about it and I think it's probably my fault. I was making her feel like her feelings didn't matter and I was invalidating her. I told her she was being too sensitive and I think I made her feel bad. And at the same time, she punched me. But I feel like it's my fault.<br><br>So I want to work this out. I want to make our marriage work. I don't want to leave my wife. But I don't know how to do it. How do I make our marriage work?<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>Edit: Yes, wow, I did not expect this many replies. I have to go to work in a minute and then I have to go to my AA meeting so it's going to be a while before I can get back to anyone. But thank you to everyone who's commented.