My boyfriend (M57) post on Facebook woke me (F52) up in ways I didn't expect
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My boyfriend, Chuck, and I have been dating for 3.5 years. We met on a very post and have been inseparable ever since. We don't live together, I'm in a condo and he has a house in the country, so you must drive everywhere. <br><br>Last week, I woke up to a post of his on Facebook where he was ranting about the price of a shovel. He had bought a snow shovel from Home Depot, and it was ridiculously expensive because it was the cheap "Made in the USA" brand. I saw the post and just went on to wish him a good day. I did notice a lot of comments on the post and wondered what they were about. I then signed in with my comments disabled on my profile and looked at the post. Well, there were several men in there saying that he was an idiot for not buying a cheap snow shovel from China. Some suggested he was a billionaire and didn't have to worry and a bunch of other very nasty comments. One of the comments was from a woman who suggested that he was just trying to copy Trump. <br><br>At first I was laughing at the absurdity of the comments, but then I started wondering if I was dating a maga person. I saw very little political posts from him because I have my Facebook set to only show me "content I would be interested in" or whatever which generally blocks all political posts. I immediately started wondering if my political views being so different than his would mean we won't be able to stay together. I've been seeing it a lot where people with different political views can't date. <br><br>In the past we have discussed politics, but he said he has no political views nor does he really trust any political party. I'm sure we discussed it in more detail than that in the past 3 years, but I didn't think too much about it. I don't read political posts and avoid all political discussions because they are so divisive. <br><br>I post that Facebook post in a couple of women's groups and was told by the comments there to run as fast as I could from him. <br><br>As I thought about it more, I realized that people in the comments weren't really mad at him, but just trying to say "fuck you" to Biden or Trump. <br><br>I decided that I needed to see all of his Facebook posts over the last few years so I set up a private browser that didn't log into Facebook and I was able to look at his Facebook wall. I then signed in so I could see the "Posts I'm tagged in" which I hadn't seen before. I then went back to his wall with the browser still open without signing in to it and I saw his posts very differently. I saw all the comments and it really made me realize that Facebook creates an "enemy" in your mind. <br><br>I won't lie, I've met some maga people in the past and some of them just seem off. They have very radical views and are very divisive. I won't go into detail because I don't want to be very specific about that particular political group. A couple of the girls in the Facebook groups I posted in were saying that I should "find out if he's a maga" and if he is then I should dump him right away. <br><br>So, now I'm in a dilemma, do I ask him, or do I just drop it and move on?
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