My husband admitted he wanted a paternity test when I got pregnant.

We got pregnant at the time when I was on the pill. We always used condoms but he grew up in a large family and always wanted to have kids of his own since he was so loved and had happy childhood so we both thought it was an omen and decided for me to stop taking the pills. We were both 25 and decided we were ready to become parents.<br><br>He8238; told me that he wanted a paternity test when the child was born. I was devastated and felt like I was being accused. I can’t describe the feeling. I begged him to do the test as soon as possible but he didn’t want to. I wanted to terminate the pregnancy because I didn’t want to risk being a single mom if the child wasn’t actually his. I couldn’t bear to live with the thought that I did this to my child, to make him suffer because I was “too scared to abort”. We went to therapy and he got a paternity test when our son was born 3 months premature. It was positive (he’s the father) and we’re raising the baby together. The paternity test was the only thing that helped me (and him) to feel safe. <br><br>EDIT: since so many people are asking why he wanted a test to begin with, I8238; think I should’ve mentioned it here. I had a colleague who was in an open relationship with his wife and who I had a work lunch with sometimes and my then Coworker was obsessed with me and asked me to sleep with him. I never did and complained about him to my husband. He investigated the whole matter and went back on his decision to take the test but I insisted so much that he agreed. I’m not sure what possessed me to think the worst, maybe it was PMS or maybe I just wanted to punish myself (this is what my therapist thinks) but I wanted it badly and still do sometimes days.