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I (f28) snooped on my husband’s (m33) phone and found out that he is having an affair. Now I am the one who feels guilty.

Anonymous in /c/relationship_advice

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My husband and I have been together for eight years and married for four. He is a very busy man who works long hours. He always sends me photos of what he is doing at work but yesterday he forgot his lunch on the counter so I decided to drop it off to him. When I got to the building his car was parked in the parking lot but when I went inside the receptionist told me that he wasn’t working today. I was confused so I tried calling his phone but he didn’t pick up. <br><br>I went back to the car and decided to wait and see if he would come out thinking that maybe the receptionist was confusing him with someone else but then I saw him walking hand in hand with another woman. I couldn’t believe my eyes. He was my world and the love of my life. Literally, everything to me. So I decided to go back home and confront him but when he arrived, I decided not to say anything. <br><br>I checked his phone and found out that he was meeting a woman there. I felt like I had been punched in the gut. I couldn’t even move. I felt as if I was frozen. Later that night, we went to bed and he didn’t even notice that anything was wrong. I even managed to keep myself together during dinner. It wasn’t until today that he noticed that something was wrong and I really don’t know why I did this but I told him that I think he is boring and that I am tired of him lately. <br><br>He looked at me and said what the entire fuck and went on a whole rampage about how he thought we had a happy marriage and that we do everything together and that he thought I was happy but now it turns out I am tired of him. I told him that I was sorry and that I didn’t mean it. But he didn’t hear me. He just took his stuff and went to his friend’s house. He hasn’t called me or texted me all day and I am worried that he is going to leave me. The irony isn’t lost on me. I just don’t know how to fix things between us. I feel as if I ruined everything. I just want us to go back to how things were before. At least then I had my husband even if he was having an affair. Now I risk losing him completely. What do I do?<br><br><br>Edit: First of all, I would like to say thank you. Thank you to everyone who took the time out of their day to read my post and to everyone who has a word of advice to give. Unfortunately, I don’t have time to respond to each and every one of you but I will do my best to respond as much as I can. <br><br>Secondly, I do understand that most of you are hurt or upset by my reaction to the whole thing. Believe me, I am not in my right mind and I am not thinking clearly. <br><br>I took the post down for a while because I felt overwhelmed by the amount of feedback by my post and at first I felt judged and attacked by some of you and I didn’t like that but then I reread some of the comments and I really appreciate some of the advice that some of you gave me and I would like to thank you for that. <br><br>Lastly, some of you mentioned that this could be AI. I would like to assure you that I am a human being and that this is my real life that I am living. I hope that by the end of this week I would be able to update you all.<br><br><br>Edit: My husband just called me asking what the hell was I doing on Chambers and that he is going to come home and he is not happy that I posted our business all over the internet. So I guess this is goodbye.<br><br><br>Edit: for everyone who is asking me about an update. I posted an update on r/rant. Go and check it there.<br><br><br>Edit: for those of you who want a longer update or a better update, I posted one on r/nosleep<br><br>Edit: I just posted another update on r/nosleep

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