I found out that my best friend of 20 years because girlfriend is a sugar baby to my husband! By sugar baby I mean my husband pays her 3,000 a month, the same amount he was paying her when he was cheating on me!

I know this is going to be long post, but please if you have been in similar situation please let me know how you handle it! <br><br>I have been with my husband " Adam" for 5 years and married for 2, with a beautiful 2 years old daughter, we have a really good marriage!<br>My bestfriend and I have been friends since we were teens! She is the maid of honor on my wedding, I love her and I thought she loved me too!!<br><br>Adam and I met at a bar while I was with Sarah, she was flirting with him all night and I was just having fun watching her dragging him, few weeks later we met again and we exchanged numbers!<br><br>Few months later Adam and I started to date, Sarah was as happy that I was! When we got married she was the maid of honor, even gave us a beautiful toaster as a present! <br><br>Last month I noticed that my husband was obsessed with a stealing from work! He was watching cameras all night! Until he confronted the stealing employee! Everything was fine, until he told me how he was feeling so good that he caught the person, he said he was just doing his job and that nothing will happen to him but it made him feel good, and how much he loves me and the kid and that he can't wait to come home every day to us, I told him to prove it by being more transparent with me, few days later he gave me his phone password and let me track him on his phone! <br><br>A couple of days ago, Sarah and her boyfriend came over for dinner, everything went great but the next day when I went to pick up Adam's dry cleaning I found a text message on his phone it was from Sarah, saying that I picked up your dry cleaning and I have your stuff with me! I can drop it off whenever you need it! <br><br>I didn't bother to text her back, and when I came back home I asked Adam about the message, he said that she asked if she can pick up his dry cleaning and drop it off at his office since he was busy and I was picked up the kid from daycare! I told him that's weird that she is doing this for him but not for me, he said that she's just trying to be nice and help out! <br><br>Adam and I had a fight over the message, he said that I shouldn't be acting like that since I'm the one who told him that he needs to be done with me and that it's his choice if he wants to see other people or not! I was shocked, I don't know where that came from, I tried to remind him that he's married and he has a child but he said that he's not doing anything!<br>I decided to confront Sarah, I can't believe that she is doing this behind my back, she didn't answer any of my calls, when I finally got a hold of her, she said that she's not feeling good and she will call me back when she feels better and hangs up the phone! <br><br>Next day I get a call from her boyfriend, saying that he needs to see me alone, we met and he told me that Sarah was acting weird the last couple of months, she's receiving a lot of money in her bank account and whenever he ask her she says that she got it from her side hustle, he also told me that she was acting very cold and not in the mood most of the time, and how he caught her sexting with someone else, he didn't know who it was since she deleted the messages, he gave me printouts of messages between him and Sarah, and the messages from Adam's number!<br>Adam's messages to Sarah were sexual and degrading, it made me sick to my stomach, Sarah's messages were about receiving her allowance every month!<br>I completely lost it and started to cry, Sarah bf just hugged me and told me that he's sorry, I asked him if he knew that Adam was the guy she was sexting with, he said that he didn't but he was acting very weird to him!<br>When I got home Adam was there, I confronted him with everything, he didn't deny anything, he just said that they were in a relationship before we even met, and he didn't know how to tell me that my best friend was his sugar baby! And that he didn't want to end things with her because he was in love with her, but he didn't want to leave me because I'm the love of his life! <br><br>I'm completely lost! I don't know what to do, my brother and his wife urged me to leave him and to file for divorce, but I don't know if I can do that? I'm still in love with him and I don't want to leave him, and I don't know if I can ever trust him again!<br><br>Please help me with your advice!<br><br>Tl;dr: I found out that my husband was paying my best friend 3,000 a month as an allowance, she was also his sugar baby before we met!<br><br>Edit: I appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or dm me, I'm still in shock and processing everything!<br>I will do my best to reply, but please forgive me if I didn't since there are too many comments!