I (28F) became a vegan and my husband (31M) didn’t like it

Hi all. I eat a lot of vegan food but I use milk and eggs occasionally, I also eat fish and chicken occasionally. <br>Our issue began when I went on a vegan diet for 6 weeks. <br>- When I started my husband (my then fiancé) who hates veganism, told me to stop and told me it’s unhealthy and not good for our future children and all. <br>- I said I’m just trying it for now and it’s only 6 weeks so it’s safe (and I had a consultation with my dr, I’ve been tested and I’m not missing any nutrition). <br>- He said he’s going to stop eating at home and he won’t eat anything I cook. <br>- When he was at home with me, he brought up vegan and plant based diet many times and how bad it is and how I’m going to die early, how plants hate us and they are trying to kill us and other reasons like these. <br>- When I was done, he was quiet for a while, then one day he said he hopes that I’m not a vegan anymore- because he wants to start eating my food again. Then he started eating my food. <br>- A few days ago, he wanted me to do something for him and he wanted to help me with my work to make me feel better because I was very stressed. <br>- I told him I can handle it, then he said he’s going to do it because he wants it to be done right. <br>- I said I’m going to do it because I want it to be done right as well. <br>- Then he said he doesn’t like me because he doesn’t like that I’m trying to do everything alone and that I don’t let him help and when he has an opinion I don’t respect it and it continues and I was surprised because I was not like this at all. I thought it was just a trap because he has threatened me that if I don’t do as he says he’ll have to treat me like a typical Arab woman. <br>- Then he said because of your stupid vegan diet you have become aggressive, arrogant, selfish, evil and you don’t care about others anymore. <br>- I said vegan diet can’t do all this, maybe it’s you who doesn’t like it and is giving it meanings that it shouldn’t have. <br>- He said because you went on a stupid vegan diet for 6 weeks I don’t like you anymore and I’m tired of you. <br>- I said a lot of people eat vegan all their life. It’s not big deal and it didn’t change anything inside me, it was just about my health. <br>- He said it was big deal for me because it’s vegan. <br>- I said you want me to be your slave and not have an opinion. <br>- He said yes, I want you to obey me. <br>- I asked him why and he said because it’s better and I don’t have to worry about things that I do- because he does all that. <br>- A few days ago I was in a fight with one of my friends on messenger (a friend who has became a close friend for me in the last 2 years and that’s because my husband has been telling me she’s the best woman and that she’s very dedicated to family). <br>- She’s going to marry an Arab man from the gulf and she has been saying that she was going to do all the housework and the cooking and everything and my husband was supporting her and saying she’s right. <br>- She has been saying she’s going to stop studying because education isn’t important for women because all that they need to do is houseword and she said she needs to focus on her looks as well. <br>- I told her women don’t have to do anything alone inside the house nowadays and men and women have to be partners. <br>- She got upset and said men don’t like women who do nothing for them and don’t obey them. <br>- I said in that case, women have to have careers so they can live alone. <br>- She said a man needs to treat his wife like that for her to obey him and be his slave. <br>- I said it’s the wrong reason. Why a wife needs to obey a husband? Especially when the husband is telling her what to do and what not to do, this is slavery. <br>- She said he’s the man and the provider so he needs to be obeyed. <br>- I said women can be providers nowadays and they don’t have to obey men. <br>- She got upset and wanted me to agree with her and I told her she’s a brainwashed woman and women have to have freedom to do what they want. <br>- She and my husband got upset and wanted me to obey and I said no. <br>- I told my husband to stop giving me orders and he said he needs to take care of me. <br>- I said I don’t need you to take care of me and I can do it myself. <br>- He said no, we’ll have kids and you’ll have to take care of them and they’re my kids and I have to take care of you and you need to obey me and you need to be a good girl and listen to me. <br>- I told him if a woman can’t listen to her husband, she’s a bad woman and if a man can’t listen to his wife he’s a god? <br>- He said yes, the man is the god and the boss and the woman is the servant. <br>- I wanted to leave and he said if I leave he’ll never let me come back and then he started crying and said he wants me to obey him because he loves me very much and he wants me to be his slave. <br>- I told him to stop crying and I don’t want to be a slave. <br>- Then he wanted to have sex with me and I told him no. <br>- He said he has to because I’m his wife and he needs to have sex. <br>- I said you can’t have sex with your slave- because slaves can’t be touched and they’re going to work all day, not share their masters’ bed. <br>- He said you want to be my equal, not my slave. <br>- I said yes, I can do it myself and I don’t need you. <br>- He said you do- because you’re my wife and you need to take care of your husband and do all the housework and the cooking. <br>- I said I’m tired of everything and I don’t want to do it. <br>- He said okay, let’s hire a housekeeper. <br>- I said no. I hate that you brought up the housekeeper, I want to do it myself. <br>- He said it’s okay, you’re now a evil woman and you don’t do anything for me anymore. <br>- I said you’re causing it, I was not like this and I used to do everything for you. <br>- He said you’re now like the evil women in the West. <br>- I said men don’t do anything for women in the West, it’s equal partnership. <br>- He said it’s not partnership, it’s that women want to be the slaves of men and they do it by choice because women want to feel that they’re needed. <br>- He said he wants me to need him. <br>- I said I don’t need you and I can do things by myself. <br>- He wanted to change me back to what I was. <br>- I told him I can’t do it and I’m going to stay like this. <br>- He said I can’t do it either and I’m going to stay like this too. <br>- I’m tired of him and I don’t know what I’m going to do anymore. <br>- I thought marriage was a partnership. <br>- But he thinks it’s slavery!!! <br>- I can’t stay in this marriage because I’m its slave and I don’t have the right to have an opinion. <br>- I was stupid when I didn’t know my rights. But now I know it and I want to be a partner- nothing more nothing less.