My husband (M40) is a chef and his restaurants are in trouble. I (F38) am a former caterer with solid business experience but he won’t let me help. How can I help him see I am in this together with him for better or worse?

Two days ago he got a call from his business manager that one of our restaurants (out of 3) has basically gone belly up. And the other two are bleeding money. And we’re in danger of losing everything we own. <br><br>I was super taken aback but I understand now that restaurants were already a crapshoot before the pandemic and now they’re dying left and right. I’m not trying to be too negative but I think it’s better to be realistic in assessing the situation. <br><br>The reason why this is such a problem is because, while my husband is a very talented chef (I’m not being biased here, that’s what all the reviews say), he has no head for business. He’s very stubborn and refuses to listen to anyone else’s advice. I’m his wife and have known him for 20+ years so I know how he is. <br><br>I used to run my own catering business which did very well. 10 years ago I closed it so I could be a stay at home mom. Our 3 kids are now in middle school and I’ve been looking to get back into the workforce. So his timing couldn’t be worse. <br><br>When he told me what happened with one of his restaurants, I offered my help and said we would figure it out together. I was ready to jump into it headfirst. <br><br>But he basically said he doesn’t want me involved with his business. And that definitely sounded weird to me because how are we married if we’re not involved in each other’s lives? So I pressed him on it and he said he didn’t want me to fail with him. So he could go down blaming himself. <br><br>I was taken aback because his wording sounded like I was just some chick he was dating. But he was wrong because we’re married. And I told him as much. I told him this was a marriage. For better or worse. We’re in this together. And we will go down together if it comes to that. I CANNOT let him go down alone. I would never live with myself. <br><br>But he’s still being stubborn. He won’t listen to my advice, me helping him with the books, or me helping him create a social media campaign to get in new customers. <br><br>How can I get him to see that we’re married? This isn’t a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. We are married. We’re supposed to be a team. <br><br>I want to hire a consultant for him but I think he’ll just argue with them.<br><br>What do I do when he’s being so stubborn?<br><br>tl;dr: My husband owns 3 restaurants. He’s in trouble and I have the skills to help him. How do I get across to him that, as his wife, I’m in this together with him for better or worse?