Men don't conceal their depression because they are afraid being seen as less of a man. They conceal because no one gives a fuck.

Recently been seeing a trend of many medical professionals and others posting that men don't talk about their depression because they don't want to seem like less of a man. I think this is bullshit. I know many out of you will say 'oh well more of a reason to let men talk about their feelings!' But that's not really the point. The point is that we as a human collective do not value the emotional health of everyone equally. Instead of being sexist, we just prefer those who are closer to our standard for depression. If you can function well enough to appear normal on the outside, you are more likely to get help. If you can't, a good amount of people will tell you 'tough shit, get your shit together or you're emabrassment.'<br><br>And to those who would say 'well you are just making it worse by thinking that way, the fact that you think most don't give a shit is what will make them not care!' Then I ask you, what else can you expect from a human society? We are self centered by nature. We only have so much energy to spend on emotions. If you are not suffering, the sadness of another is mostly irrelevant to you. You will only be driven to help them if the pain is in some way directly affecting you. This isn't something that can be changed with just thoughts or  ideas. The reason we don't care about everyone suffering is the same reason we can't care about all the suffering in the world, we don't have the mental energy to be emotionally moved by every individual suffering. This is Coxing a reality whether we like it or not. <br><br>If you want to let more people know about their depression, yes people may be less likely to open up because they expect less care, but at the very least you are creating a discussion, which is growth. If that does not lead to change in particular, it still contributes to discussions in general. But that is just my opinion. I think a lot of people are using 'men not talking about depression because it makes them seem weak' as an excuse for their lack of care. Just like a lot of people use 'I don't know how to relate to others' as an excuse for being abusive, 'I don't like being uncomfortable' as an excuse for weight loss, 'I just can't do it' as an excuse for quitting smoking, and 'I'm just not that strong' as an excuse for dying. All of these excuses fail to consider that other people may have overcome these issues. It is very difficult to to change your mind about something. But once in a while, meeting an individual with contrasting views can make you think. So even if you don't see it this way, try to think that someone else may have had a different experience, and try to grow from that.